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have you ever been cheated on or anything to do with cheating?

I just have a small situation. My friend Sam cheated on her bf Allan with my bf's best friend and his brother. She made out with both of the guys and gave on of them head. Her bf allan is good friends with me and my bf and we decided we should tell him-- so we did the next day.

Sam and I weren't completely good friends but we were close somewhat. But if he did this to her, I would probably tell her too. So she's pissed and she has all my friends against me. Even my bffl. But i know i did the rite thing. All this time, past 2 weeks I've been there for Allan; even pickig him up at midnite because he was so depressed and taking him 2 parties to help him get his mind off her. And she does everything she can like for example- she cuts hereself- for attention. Allan and her are supposed to talk 2morrow and i want to kick her ass so bad but I'm not going to be there.

there's only one lil thing that i messed up on. at the party i told her to go for--to cheat. and when i told my bffl the story i admitted i told her to go for it.....and allan doesnt kno that. i told him i never said that and he believes me. but now sam and kayla my best friend have this against but my bf was there but will tell alan that it never happened, but im still afraid he'll beloieve her. he want to be with her but knows he shouldn't.

what do u think i should do now? kayla keeps telling me to back off when sam from the beggining said she was gonna break up with him.kayla and sam never even liked each other? everyone feels sorry for her because all she does it cry and they give me stuff like "you have no idea how much she has been thru" blah blah when this is all for attention and i'm not stupid.

now i really don't know what do or even say?

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You were a great friend to tell now you are suffering the consequences for telling.If Allan appreciates it you did a good thing. Now about that little white lie you told you could either come clean and possibly have Allan mad at you or you could sit back and hope he doesn't find out but if he does he might be more upset because you lied. Think before you react. And please no kicking her a** I am sure you want to but what will this really solve besides a nasty fight and possibly more hurt feelings and lost friends. As far as Sam goes I hope she gets help cutting herself is not healthy mentally or physically. Sit back, count to ten, and think before you make any sudden decisions the consequences could be worst than the ones you already are facing. Good Luck :-)


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