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Ok.. where to start. This could relate to a lot of categories so please just bare with me.
I'm in a bit of a situation. I'm 19 years old, female. I have a boyfriend of two years. He's nearly 21 and I live with my grandparents.
First of all my grandmother is extremely strict on me. Curfews and things like that stopped when I turned 18 last year. Curfews aren't the problem though.
I have been with my boyfriend for two years as I said and she wont let me sleep with him. I have been sleeping with him for the last 12 months. He was my first and is the only guy I have ever been with sexually. I did everything right. I am on the pill and we always use protection.
Recently I had enough of her ways and told her how I felt and told her that I have been sleeping with my boyfriend. She completly hit the roof and went off at me and called me a slut.
I honestly don't think I deserved to be spoken to like that. I have spoken to my Aunty a number of times about this so she knows of everything that had been going on between my boyfriend and myself.
I have tried to speak to my grandmother about this and the last time ended up in tears like every other time. She even told me to pack my f*cking bags and leave if I wasn't happy.
The problem is that I don't do anything wrong and she still seems to think I need all these strict rules. I don't. Just because I can think and do things for myself doesn't mean I don't need her anymore. I told her this.
I asked her what do I do that is so wrong.. She couldn't give me an answer. She's only hurting herself because she is pushing me away.
I did well in school, I use to work for a lawyer now I work for a doctor. I don't drink alcohol except for christmas and things like that. I don't go to the pubs every weekend like most 19 year old girls do.
My boyfriend and I love each other very much and just want to be together. We shouldn't have anyone stand in the way of that. We have in the last few months decided that we want to live together and start our life together. We are good people so why does this happen?
What is she protecting me from?!? She tells me that she loves my boyfriend and he is a lovely person. I can't win. I am on the verge of just moving out. I don't know how to deal with the stress anymore. It hurts.
Am I just being selfish or is she just too over protective? I don't want to feel miserbale anymore!
Thank you for taking the time to read this. (link)
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I am 27 and I may sound a bit old fasioned but I was 9 not long ago and I still remember it quite clearly I moved out at 19 with my 28 years old b-friend my mom grandmother and uncle whom I lived with objected and I didn't see wy I had a good joband all used protection just like you 8 years later I know why if I would have stayed home I could have finished school, it is really hard in te world, don't jump defensive when tere rent lights water insurance medical bills groceries they add up and they add up quick how about sitting down and saying granma I don't want to argue but we need to talk why dont you want me moving in with my b-friend let her explain and listen grandma probably has a lil bit wisdom to match her age maybe she moved in young got married had kids I dont know but she probably wants whats best for you and you know that too thats why you still live there explain you know the consequences of sex but you are careful. If all this fails and you move in don't burn your bridges you may have to go back home at some point leave on good terms if you need more advice write me back and Good Luck
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Thank you. I know that at this stage that my boyfriend and I can't move out on our wages. But the bonus is that his parents offered me to move in with them. I'm going to try and stick it out for as long as I can.. hopefully another 12 months. That will give us more time to save. Thank you for your advice. Very much appreciated.
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