HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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my best friend is middle eastren and she is muslim. she is really really cool and so open minded. she's nothing like how muslims are portrayed in the media. she goes out has fun but still respects her tradition and stuff and i respect that. recently she's been worried like crazy though. when i asked her she actually confided in me and told me whats the matter... i didn't know what to tell her so i was hoping you guys can help its very serious:
she fell in love with this muslim guy and they love each other soooo much and are planning to get married soon. in islam a girl has to be a virgin to get married and the "only solid proof" of that is if her hymen is still intact. she'as never had sex before so she IS a virgin. that we both know. however, she does masturbate... and she told me she looked it up and it is allowed in islam for her to do so if it meant not having sex before marriage. so far so good. the only problem is that she broke her hymen masturbating and culture/traditional wise no religion wise she will get in so much trouble for that. if she gets married and she doesn't bleed on her first night retributions will be bad (and i mean beyond european and north american bad... i ddnt even want to ask her about them)
now ignore all that. that was just background. my question is there anyway she can repair her hymen? or fake bleeding or something? can a gyno in the states or canada do it for her (she is there to finish college) is there anyyyyway possible to get her out of accusations she is inocent of?
please help she is really panicking... and she cant talk to her parents about it even if she showed them proof that religion does permit it.....it's her country's tradition..... (link)
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well since she cant tell her parents at all then take her to a gynecologist and tell him the problem and hell tell you where and how to get the surgery done and how much itll cost.Just calm her down more.And dont try to tell her to make up an excuse to her busband that she broke it in a certain way or eles he can go asking her family and thatll get her in deepshit!hope i helped
oh my god,i totally feel your freind because i myself am muslim.And by the way the way muslims are shown on tv is not the truth,the suicide bombing and stuff they do it because they have no other wepons or choice.The war lead them to this.Muslims are NOT terrorists at all if you watched 9/11 youd understand who was behind it,ANy way ill get to that later.Your freind either needs to TELL HER PARENTS or go have surgery to put in another hymen,these surgerys exist you no.If that muslim guy shes marrying finds out her hymen is broken trust me its all gonna be over.The guy will leave her because he will think she lost her virginity to a guy and muslim guys dont respect girls that arent virgins because they think if the gurl did it be4 she will do it again and who knows if shell cheat on me.I suggest your freind talks to her mother if theyre close and tells her so she can get surgery before its too late man.Or is shes not close with them then she can go with a trusted person and get that surgery done!But i really suggest she tells her mom so someone can be by her side and calm her down,i would be freakin the hell out man.Im tellin you again this is mad serious make sure she gets the surgery.Hope it goes well.
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oh my god exactly! she is going crazy! she would die before talking to he mom or sisters i mean i am the closes thing to her and i guess if anything i'll be going with her. but the thing is where do we find such surgeries?!?!?! her guy is a doc so if he looks or something he'll know so we need to get this dun get her to bleed and get this done with. she is such a nice friend and i hate to see her be punished for something she never did. as a muslim what do you think i should be doing to help her anymore advice?!?! :S thanx soooo much!
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