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hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

advice

OK this is a weird question, as a warning for those who are reading it. here we go..

I have trouble making "small talk" or any kind of talk...I just freeze up. but its not only with people i don't know or am shy of..its also with close friends. and i don't know what to do, or how to "fix" this. Its really awkward when there's these prolonged silences where i have no idea what to say, and end up talking about the weather or work. I do not know whats wrong with me. and recently its been bothering me even more because i recently got engaged, and my fiance would like me to call and talk to his mother more often. and you kno, become friends with her. but i dread every phone call (which never lasts more than 10 minutes) and i dont have any idea what to say. i guess you could say i have trouble with the how to talk as well..lol

but ya i could just use some advice, preferably from people who understand what im going through or know someone like me.

Thanks in advance! :)

ok..
hun, i used to be so shy! you have no idea how shy i was!
phone calls? absolutely hated them!... honestly still do haha! am love text messeging because of that! And with new people, yeah, that was a drag!
I guess little by little, start pushing yourself, and putting yourself out there! I guess one of the things that eventually kinda helped me was chatting, yes, online. You know? going to random friendly chatrooms and just.. talking! ..at first it was a little hard, but i got into it. And talking was so easy! since you don't actually have to be face to face with the people, and you don't know if you'll evr even "se" them again, you can trully be yourself without worries and just relax and have fun!
And then before you know it, you'll become a social butterfly! you'll go to places and meet so many new interesting people! =)
Just take it at your own pace =) relax and have fun! Just remember to chat about thi8ngs that interest YOU! =) you know> like when trying to figure out what to talk about! haha! =)
Oh, and congrats on your engagement! =)
and as for talking to you to be mother in law.... no matter what, if you've never really talked to her at all or that much, its always going to be hard! haha!

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(Rating: 4) thanx, i do chat online a lot. i guess its just harder for me to chat face to face..
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