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Just call me Calli.I like Jamie Bell and Cillian Murphy. I like Friday Night Lights and Desperate Housewives and Dead Like Me. I like writing, roleplaying in writing communities. I like reading: Harry Potter, Tom Robbins, Kurt Vonnegut, House of Leaves. I love House of Leaves. I like Adam Pascal in Rent. I like messing around in photoshop. I'm not too fantastic, but I like it. I like chemistry. I love Audrey Hepburn.
I dislike poetry. I dislike physics.
I am indifferent about Twilight.
I know nothing about romantic relationships. But I have friends. I have family. And I like them.
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20/f. To make a long story short, I'm dating a new guy, my ex's friend, and my ex found out. (I know, "ex's friend??") My ex still has feelings for me, so he flipped out. During the 2 hours I spent calming him down and saving my boyfriend from getting the crap beaten out of him, I realized I still like my ex. He was still flipping out about his friend/my guy, so I admitted it to him.
The relationship with the ex ended because neither of us were prepared for the intensity of the emotions that came with it. He backed out, but still kept me close to him. He used to upset me a lot, but always made up for it.
I've been with the new guy for almost a month, though we've been acting like a couple for longer. He's sweet and romantic, but he does a lot of things that REALLY annoy me. Not to mention, he's not nearly as good in bed as my ex was. I actually found myself thinking about my ex afterwards once.
Now I have 3 hearts and a huge predicament in my hands. I know honesty is the best policy, but if I tell my current guy I still have feelings for my ex, I'm afraid I'll lose him, since I backed out of a relationship with him once already.
What do I do? How do I handle this?
I may be a LOT younger than you, but this happens where I go too. I think you should take a break from both guys and go single for a while. See who you like best when you have no commitment to either. Maybe you could even find someone different. But don't tell your new boyfriend about your feelings just yet. Just tell him you're confused, and you need some time alone. It might help.
(Rating: 5) You're probably right. On the other hand, I'm afraid if I tell him I need time, he won't want to wait for me to figure myself out. Thanks though.