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Q: Hi i was wondering,for 14 year olds...what would be better?..oral sex or regular sex?...also for oral would it be better for the girl to do the guy first or the guy to do the girl first..or would it be better for both to do it at the sametime because i know that someone might not feel like doing something after orgasming..also is it better for a guy to wear a condom for oral or not?

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First of all, you're only 14, and to be honest, I don't think your relationship is serious enough to be even considering sex -- oral or otherwise. You're so young, and you could easily be making a mistake that you'll regret for the rest of your life.

That being said, oral sex isn't about who's first and second -- whatever happens, happens. You're not going to listen to me saying "don't do it." So my advice is to just go with the flow when it comes to who's first or at the same time or whatever.

As far as protection goes, a condom is a VERY good thing to have, even just for oral sex. Yeah, it's a little weird, but you can get STDs from giving oral sex. Same goes for him -- even if you're a virgin, he should use a dental dam when he's giving you oral sex. If you can't get ahold of an actual dental dam, then just use a square of plastic wrap about the size of your open hand -- stick that over your "area" before he begins oral. It'll keep both of you safe (again, you can get an STD from him giving YOU oral too).

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