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I'm 18 and about to enter my sophomore year of college. Feel free to ask me questions about anything- I'll try to help in the best way possible! :)

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Hi, I'm a 20 year old lesbian and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over 3 years. She's the first long term relationship I've ever had. I've been living with her for about a year and a half. She pays for everything for me, and the house is hers.

I'm the kind of girl who gets big crushes that last for months. But I never really got a crush on my girlfriend, I just started dating her because she seemed like she would make a nice girlfriend. So ever since we've been together I've still been getting crushes on other women. I haven't been with anyone else, but I don't know if I should just keep staying in this relationship just because we make a good couple. If I left then I'd have to move back in with my mom who is an even less tolerable choice. Besides, my girlfriend has been with me so long that she's gotten into the same habits and so if she left she might change, I might find that she was the best person out there after all, but then it would be too late.

Most of the time I don't even want to hug her and I don't know why. I really like her and enjoy being around her. Should I just stay in the relationship until I find someone that I do have passion for?

It seems like you're staying in the relationship for all the wrong reasons. Hypothetically, if you really don't want to be with her, but you don't want to end the relationship because you have to move in with your mom, that's really not fair to her or yourself. You're staying with her for the wrong reasons, and she's getting mislead, thinking that you're 100% happy. Since you're not sure if you absolutely want to stay in this relationship, but you're afraid that if you leave and you might realize that she was THE ONE for you, maybe that's a good thing. Maybe if a take a little bit of time away from eachother, you'll be able to realize how much you truely care about her, or maybe you realize that she isn't that one for you. and I'm sure that you'll feel a lot better knowing that you're not second guessing anymore. A break isn't always a bad thing, some time away from eachother can really clear out your mind and re-evaluate your feelings for eachother! Hope this helped, and good luck. =)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, I might have to try that.
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