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Well my mom is 37 she was married twice and had a boyfriend. But all of a sudden she likes this girl. The girl is gay and my mom i dont know if my mom is becoming gay. But i dont like the girl shes with and i dont trust her. I know shes a perve and she wants my mom in ways you should know... She is taking my mom away from me and my mom doesn't really seem that happy. What should i do??? (link)
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Did you feel this way when your mom starting dating men? If so, this might be your reaction to her spending time with anyone else - and it's a perfectly normal and appropriate way to feel.
If you didn't mind her dating men, then your feelings cold be more about the 'gay thing.' I would encourage you to explore how you feel about gay people in general, and then how you feel about the possibility of your mother being a lesbian or bisexual.
It can be a hard thing to adjust to, but it will not change how she feels about you. Nor will it change who she is as a person.
Your mom might seem unhappy because she is unsure how you or other people will react to her dating a female. Coming out, or realising you are gay, is an extraordinarily difficult and confusing time. Rarely does someone express a huge amount of happiness during this time - they may feel relieved and happy to be living in a genuine way, but it doesn't erase the stress of having to tell other people. Particularly if they have been living as straight for a long time.
Having a conversation with your mom might be a really good idea. You can share your feelings with her, and also ask questions about anything you don't understand. If she knows how you feel, perhaps she will be willing to spend more one-to-one time with you.
I wish you the best.
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