Call MeSKY
i;m 16 and i live in New York, The reason i decided to give out advice because i have been through alot in my life,
-I grew up without a father,
-dealt with abuse up till recently,
-dealt with many mental issues,
-dealt with death in a close knit family,
-dealt with disease.
-Jerk Boyfriends
-Sex issues
-Step Sisters
I've been through a lot, but it only made me stronger. I know what it feels like to be down, to be lower than you've ever been before, Sometimes you just need someone, even if you don't know this person just to talk too. When friends aren't as supportive as they should be, and parents aren't there. Thats why I'm here. I'm not perfect with advice but i will tell you straight up and do my best to help. No matter how big or small a problem is. I will be as open as i possibly can, and maybe just maybe( No promises though) i will help. Just know that talking is a good way to solve any problem..
-Sky-
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i posted a question asking 'can one person be the cause of a dysfunctional family?' and LagunaBabe directed me to this site: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysfunctional_family i read the article and immeditally started crying. i know that now, my dysfunctional family is affecting me and the way that i am. but i dont know how to change it. i dont want to end up bad. i only have 2 more years until i can legally move out. while my parents aren't addicted to drugs or alcohol, they are very controlling... i realized that all of these following symptoms from the article are true:
-Conditional love
-Disrespect
-Stifled speech (children not allowed to dissent or question authority)
-Emotional intolerance (family members not allowed to express the "wrong" emotions)
-Ridicule
-"Dogmatic or chaotic parenting" (harsh and inflexible discipline)
-"Denial of an Inner Life" (children are not allowed to develop their own value system)
-Social dysfunction or isolation"
am i going to end up bad because of my dysfunctional family? im scared that im the cause of my dysfunctional family.
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I to have what people call a dysfunctional family and im not bad...
you are your own person and your family does not define who you are..
As long as you set goals for yourself and plan you life and stay on the right path you will be fine..
I have so much faith in you...
Coming from a dysfunctional family is a hard thing to deal with.
It put stresses on a child that are so hard and sometimes the child may not be able to deal it which could cause the child to be put on path in which is not a good one.
Only the child can change their path, and i see just in your writing that this is not the case for you.
Stay strong, don't let your dysfunctional family get the best of you because you are the only one that can make yourself bad.
Dysfunctional families are not caused by one person and im sure your not the cause.
Have a talk with your parent as awkward as it may be it may help..
If you need any more help im here
-Sky-
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i started crying when i read your answer. thanks.
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