Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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i need help! i don't know if im wrong ...ok so i have a boyfrien , and he's nice and everything , but today we went on an argument about him not oppening the car door for me ...am i wrong for wanting him to do it?? even though he's nice and open places doors for me etc??..i told him i'd like that ..and he said :S its not like im going to be your slave or anything! can't you open it yourself??? ...and i was like ..i can obviously , but i would appreciate if you'll do it ....he sad your spoiled! its like i have feelings too! and im a person too why do i have to be all day after you doing evrything for you opening doors for you and for me who will do it? nobody does it for me , why do you have to be better than me ? we are both equal! ... then it turn into a big fight but am i wrong :S?????? (link)
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Hey!
Well I can't pick sides here, because I'm not in the situation, but I'll show you a few things, and maybe you can make up your own mind okay? :D
First of all, I like it when guys open up doors for me, but the car door may be a bit much. At least thats how I feel. I can see how he would feel like a slave if you want him to open a car door for him, because thats something that butlers do.
He is right on the equal thing, for years and years women have tried to work their way up to being equal with men, in the down side to that, yeah we lost a few of those sweet things guys do. But we dont have to stay home all day washing floors and we are aloud to wear pants in most cases, so I think that it all works out to be even.
It was rude of him to say that you're spoiled, and stuff though.
So heres what I would do, Whether or not you feel that he is right, relationships are all about communicating and trying to find a happy medium. So tell him that you over reacted, and that you may have been wrong (even if you dont feel that way) and that you want to be equal with him, and you think he's amazing, and you don't feel better than him, you just thought that was something that guys did for the girls they love (or a word less than love if you arent there yet). Tell him that you appreciate all he does, and it means a lot to you when he does those little things like opening doors and stuff, and you think that it proves that he is a real gentleman, but you love (or substitue for love) him whether he does it or not, and you hate that he feels that you don't appreciate it because you really do. Tell him that you hope he isnt angry with you, and that it was a silly little thing and you hope it didnt hurt him.
Whether or not you actually agree with that, I don't know, but its all about giving alittle for the other person, I doubt you'll get car doors from that, but hopefully he'll still open regular doors for you. Good luck, and I hope I helped, Love ya,
Angie91
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hey thanx 4 your advice i really appreciate it , now i'll come to you when i have this kind of questions if that's okay :)
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