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Just call me Calli.I like Jamie Bell and Cillian Murphy. I like Friday Night Lights and Desperate Housewives and Dead Like Me. I like writing, roleplaying in writing communities. I like reading: Harry Potter, Tom Robbins, Kurt Vonnegut, House of Leaves. I love House of Leaves. I like Adam Pascal in Rent. I like messing around in photoshop. I'm not too fantastic, but I like it. I like chemistry. I love Audrey Hepburn.
I dislike poetry. I dislike physics.
I am indifferent about Twilight.
I know nothing about romantic relationships. But I have friends. I have family. And I like them.
If that helps at all, there it is. If not, there it is.
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I don't know whether or not this fits here, but here I go.
My friend's parents have gotten divorced in a rather messy way, causing her mother's almost mental breakdown and constant crying. Her father, on the other hand, is being overly nice to my friend.
Due to her sister's influence, my friend started smoking and drunk some alcohol. Now, my friend regrets this, and hates that she is now addicted to cigarettes. She's trying to stop, but it doesn't seem to be enough.
Recently, her mother found her sister's birth control pills and some drugs, and now suspects both my friend and her sister. The mother then proceeded to say that they would be kicked out of the house if she caught them taking drugs. The mother then told the father, who said he would not allow them in his house if they were kicked out, either.
So. What can I do to help my friend, and what advice can I give her?
Just be there for her. Make sure you stop her from taking the drugs and put her through help. Option a support group or therepist. Or print out pictures of what drugs do to you (like those really nasty pictures) put all her crap in a box and tape those pictures all over it.
Cigarette patches and things might work for cigarettes too. And opt water for alcohol. Since your friend wants help, it should be easier to help her. At least she knows she's not making a good decision and should try your ideas.
Also, be sure to remind her what her parents think of this. Tell her that she needs a home, and that she can't let this junk ruin her body. Tell her she should be in control of her life. And tell her to help her sister as well, even if the sister is resistant you two should be able to get through to her.
Be gentle, don't force things. Addictions take a while to get over.
(Rating: 5) I know. She knows the effects drugs have on you; but unfortunately, her sister started taking them, so she started taking them, then by the time she realized what a mistake she made she was hooked.
Cigarette patches? I'll look into that.
Her sister... won't listen to a word we say. Her sister is really nice, but apparently she and her boyfriend have sex almost every day, and she does a lot of drugs.
She knows she needs a home, that's why she's scared. She's afraid that the urge to smoke will be really strong, and she'll smoke, and her mother will catch her.
Currently, I've found a website for a company that specializes in helping addictions. I gave their number to her, though she hasn't called it yet.
But, thank you very much for your advice.