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It seems like many people mix up love with lust or obsession. and it just seems so confusing if you really liked someone for a long time. How do you really know if you're in love?

If your heart skips a beat...
If your breath hitches in your throat...
If your stomach is filled with fluttering butterflies...
If you can only think of them...
If you have never felt this way...

Are you in love?

Nope.

Love is not blind adoration or hero-worship. When you love someone... You'll know they aren't perfect. You'll even be able to write a list of their flaws... "He has a tendency to procrastinate. He's absent-minded. He's messy..." And so on. But if you really love him or her you'll accept them for who they are. Including every flaw. You may still be upset when he forgets the anniversary of your very first date... But you'll forgive him before you go to bed. Because while some of his habits irritate you... You really wouldn't want him to be anyone else. You've accepted his good qualities... And his bad qualities. Because when you love someone you can't just accept bits and pieces of them.

Love is not selfish. You will compromise and sacrifice in the name of his or her happiness... Because the thought of his/her unhappiness makes you feel unhappy. You will not ask for gifts that are impossible or unfair... Like asking him to sacrifice his friendship with that particular brute that he's known since grammar school. Or to throw away that old shirt he insists on wearing... Even if it is faded and slightly torn.

And when you love someone... You will be able to explain why and give solid reasons. "He/She is cute," does not count. When I say "solid reasons" I mean... "I love him because he is intelligent and wise. I love him because he is kind. He would not harm another intentionally. I love him because he is honest and trustworthy..."

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