Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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hey...well my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a couple of months now and we were doing really well...now we've been through a whole lot and we pretty much know how it is with each other...it hasnt been so great...it seems that ive been the only one putting in effort into the relationship and he says himself that he doesnt care about most things...i changed some things about myself for him but when it comes to him its like he doesnt even try...i would say everything on here that happens but theres way too many things that go on...it seems like now its comming to an end and at the same time ive learned a lot from it...i talked to him last night and he said that he doesnt think we're right for each other...i couldnt bear with what he was saying i felt so hurt but he wants to wait a little longer just to see if it gets anyt better all but i dont know how long that'll last and i dont know if i should wait...i need some advice on how to get over him...ive stayed up all night for weeks with this...missed school...cant concentrate..i cant let him go i just cant see him with another girl it hurts too much...and i dont know if i should end it...i know i should but i cant...thanks for anyone who tries to help i really appreciate it...
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Hey,
You know that you have to get out of a relationship when the strain of it is putting a tole on your life. You've missed school, and you cant concentrate. He doesnt care about things you say, he says things that break your heart. You need to get out. If you stay in the relationship things will just get worse. And you will end up hating him. Hating the man you once loved. Isnt that the opposite of what you wish could happen?
SO next time you talk to him, tell him how you feel, tell him how the relationship is one sided, and you love (?) him but you need to stop seeing him, or things will just get worse. Explain to him that you wish that the two of you could continue going out, but you jsut can't because it would be too painful and in the end you would both just end up getting hurt.
Okay, now moving on. This is tough, and different for every person. And the answer will be different too. THere are the obvious things like find a job or spend more time with friends. Join a club or volunteer. Then there are the less obvious things like write a letter about how your feeling, but dont send it, or write in a diary daily. You can spend more time on yourself, like get a makeover (not that you need it, you look awesome!, that was just a random complement I thought maybe you could use one l ol) or spend a friday night with candles and a bubble bath.
You can try doing something that shows you have talent like paint a picture or write a poem, or do something you've never done before, like rock climbing or horseback riding. Or you can make new friends(ie join something outside of school that none of your friends are into) or focus on one of your friends and try and build up your relationship with them. Another thing you could try is if you have a younger sibling or cousin, or younger neighbor even, try and spend some time with them, take them to a movie or shopping. It will help to give them a positive rolemodel, and it shows compasion.
Lastly, the most famous one, move on. Pick a new guy. I dont usually suggest actually making moves on other guys for at leasta few weeks (aka the rebound weeks) but pick a nice looking guy in your your english class and think(or obsess) about him. Getting your ex out of your head is the most important thing.
Those are just a few suggestions, and they may work, but if they dont, thats okay, I've got a lot more. I think I answered your question, and it sucks to be in your situation, but it happens to everyone sometimes. I hope I helpped, and good luck. Let me know if you need more tips. Love ya,
Angie91
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thanks so much hun your advice really helped me
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