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I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
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Okay so my boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time now and out of nowhere he starting bringing up the fact that we havn't had sex. I mean, it's not like i havn't thought about it because a 15 year old girl with a boyfriend two years older than her is obviously going to think about the possibilities, but I never actually brought it up or anything. Yes, I am a virgin but I have done other things with him. I just don't know if I'm actually ready to have sex with him. Like, I want to but I don't know if it's because he keeps bringing it up and I'll feel guilty if I don't or if it's because I really want to. And I know that if I'm even questioning it that I shouldn't but there is part of me that wants to. I Don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
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I think that right now you are sortof debating it, and questioning yourself. So what you should do is tell your boyfriend that you arent ready, and he has to stop bringing it up. You'll be ready one day, and as soon as you are you'll tell him. But for right now he has to cool it, because you feel pressured. If he's a good guy he'll quit bothering you about it. If he isnt, and keeps bringing it up, tell him that you really injoy going out with him, but you arent ready for sex, and if he wants sex that bad maybe he should go find someone else to do it with.
Lots of people have sex when their 15, but it doesnt mean you have to. Whether you believe in waiting until marridge, or you just wanna wait a little bit longer, until you know for sure you're ready, it's a big deal. Don't let anyone tell you that your first time isnt a big deal. After you do it, it wont be, but your first time riding your bike was a big deal, your first time getting married will be a big deal, so why shouldnt this be one?
Yeah a part of you wants to have sex, and yeah a part of you wants to eat every chocolate bar in the candy store sometimes, but sometimes you think about it and you're like yeah... I dont think thats a very good idea. So until you think you can feel 100% (or pretty close) to go all the way, then you shouldn't. Right now sex is a possibility, but so is skydiving. You just have to measure the need or want to do it.
Never feel guilty for not having sex okay? You can agree to it and be in bed with him and say, you know what I'm not ready. Dont even feel guilty for that okay? It's not like you're donating your kidney and he's going to die with out it. Its just a couple hours one night. And if you arent ready, then you wont have the experience you are looking foreward too.
So talk to him about it, and never forget your standards. I think you can trust yourself to make the right decision, just trust yourself, you'll know when its the right time. Good luck, hope I helped.
Love ya,
Angie91
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Wow. Thank you so much. This is one of many times you were able to help me out :] Thanks again
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