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Okay, i had a question about bisexuality. I think that i am bisexual, but i can't quite seem to figure out what to do. I have dreams and think about that stuff with girls, but i wasn't sure how to approach this situation. I don't know anyone that is bisexual or lesbian. I just wanted to know what i should do to actually find out for sure. I told my close friend about it, and he told me that i am because i answered a bunch of questions (like would you kiss a girl etc). I just wanted to see if any one had any advice as to what to do. Serious answers are preferable, and someone who is bisexual would be even better so they can tell me what they did.
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Contrary to popular belief, sexuality is however you identify. This means that someone may identfy as straight, gay, or bisexual before they've done anything sexual at all.
I think the best way to approach sexuality is with an open mind and heart. You're the person who knows you best, and it's important to live a life that is reflecting your genuine self.
As for the 'what to do,' I'm not sure what you're asking. If you're wondering about 'trying it out,' again, this is no sure fire way to prove your sexuality. Sex can be a lot more enjoyable and pleasing with someone you care about, so messing around with one random individual might not make things any clearer for you.
Why not just keep an open mind and see what happens? If you see a girl you're interested in and it seems she likes you back, then you've got a chance to date her. Likewise, if you are interested in a guy, you can date him. This perspective allows it to be about the person rather than what's between their legs.
Recognising your own sexuality as bisexual or lesbian can be a confusing and long process, but know that you're not alone. There are excellent web resources for young people on this topic - articles to read, message boards, etc. There are often local LBGT (lesbian, bisexual, gay, and transgendered) groups you can attend in person, too. These can be purely social or more discussion based.
There's no rush to pin down your sexuality. After all, it'll be with you for the rest of your life.
I wish you the absolute best.
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