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hey everyone! You can call me elle. I absolutley love helping people so i hope you will come to me if you need anything!!! i'm into acting and i have an agent...its my passion and i've been surrounded by it my whole life. also, if anyone is depressed or anything i'm a good person to ask how to deal with it. i myself went through that sort of pain and came out the other end a better person. i'm here for everyone...anytime you need me! thanks!!!

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hey...i have a question. I am a really outgoing person and really nice to everyone. Soemtimes though, i get really mad over little things cry from it. I later realise how small it was. I get moodswings alot and really angry sometimes. I cut myslef sometimes when im REALLY upset but not always. I just wanted to know from ANYONE how can i deal with my temper? When im mad what can i do? I either punch the wall or break something and i know thats not right. I take a deep breath and count to 10 but that doesnt work. I tried writing it down on paper but im afraid my mom will find it because she always gos through my room. I get depressed Sometimes and i really dont want to go to a doctor about it or anything because true say, the problem is usually small. Can anyone tell me a way to control this anger?
Please and thanks alot

I understand the anger issue. beleive me, I've had my fair share of outburts! my guess is that your under a lot of stress maybe more than you even relize and thats whats causing this. if not, there may be a deeper issue, in which case you should probably get checked out, even though you don't want to. its as easy as going to the school nurse and your mom dosn't even have to know about it. i get that you don't want to see a doctor though, i felt the same way about depression and anger...i just wanted answers, not some person in a white coat analyzing me.So we'll leave that as a last resort. For me, when i feel an out burst coming (fyi: this sounds ridiculous but really does work!), i imagine myself petting a cat or dog,just an animal that i really love. It works because it helps to lower your blood pressure,which helps to calm you down long enough to get a grip. i get why the breathing thing dosen't work. having to breath hard with something that feirce running through your body is just a sucky technique becasue it almost makes you hypervenilate,which makes you freak out, which adds to the feeling of anger. try the petting thing and if you want something else,scream into your pillow...again sounds stupid,but you'd be surprised how easy it is and how much better you feel. i'm going to say something becasue i truley want to help you and I hope you'll listen...DO NOT CUT YOURSELF!! Beleive me, depression is hard enough without adding wounds. They just hurt and don't solve anything! There are far better ways to take care of this than by cutting! Thats not healthy, and i know what your thinking, its too hard to stop but if you do i promise it'll be that much eaiser to control what you're feeling! trust me! I only want to help! Don't fuel the anger. Let me know how it goes!

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(Rating: 5) awww thanks soo much...i will for shure try that method...ill update you later:-)(L)
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