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okay so i have a sister that is a couple years older then me and she is really nice but really bossy. she always makes me do things for her and i do them because i dont want her to not like me. it is getting really out of hand and i am like her SLAVE now. i feel like she is taking advantage of me but i dont know what to do, help!

Try to talk to your sister and make her understand how you feel. The only person who can boss you around is *you*, because this life is originally yours. If you're afraid that she will stop liking you, remind yourself that she's your sister, and there's really nowhere to go from here. Family is family, and truth to be told, most (but not all) of the big sister are like that. The one thing that is also important to realize is that you are NOT helping her when you're doing things for her she could've done herself. Every person must be strong and independent, and Damsels In Distress are not survivor types anymore. Survive and succeed those who use their fears and other stumbling blocks as stepping stones. So actually, what you've got to do is use your insecurity about what your sister (or anyone else for that matter) will think of you as a stepping stone, and let her know that you can choose your own behavior and make your own decisions, which, by the way, you wish for her as well. You can't always use someone's back when you're tired of walking.

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(Rating: 5) thank you sooo much for the answer, i will try to use it!
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