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ok i'm 16/f lesbian, i've just started going out with a girl, it's the first time for me so i'm very inexperienced, and i need to know: what do girls do together sexually? she's been with other girls so i need to know what to do! and also, do most lesbians like girls who shave it all off? or just some? or don't shave down there at all.
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The thing about lesbians is that there is a lot of sexual variety. You've got fingers, hands, tongues - basically, you can do anything any other combo of people can do, and more!
Not only is there a wide variety of actual stuff you can do, each person is different. Some girls may love being penetrated, for example, while someone else would rather stay away from it.
Just as in any relationship, why not just see how things go. You may be surprised at what comes naturally. Once you get to know this girl better, it might be a good idea to let her know that while you find her attractive, you're a virgin and not sure what to do. She might actually enjoy the chance to take you under her wing!
As for shaving, it's completely up to what you feel comfortable with - emotionally and physically. Some girls let it be completely natural, some trim the hair, some only shave the bikini line, and some shave it all (though this isn't incredibly common). You want to make sure that whether you're mostly hair or mostly bare you feel confident and sexy - particularly as it's your first time.
While I do understand your nerves, I'd like to point out that chances are you won't immediately hop into bed with this girl. Sexually, you'll start slow and work your way up over a period of time. A lot of kissing and making out will probably happen before any full fledged sex, so you'll have a chance to gradually become more comfortable.
If anything your new girlfriend says or does makes you uncomfortable, makes you excited, or makes you anything at all - tell her! Sex with every person is a new experience, particularly for lesbians, and she won't be able to mindread what you enjoy, either. If you both care for each other and are attracted to each other, chances are things will end up fine.
I wish you the best.
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