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Ok here's my situation! Sorry if its long!

Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together 18 months this month! I'm 18 and he's 20! I live with my grandparents and my Nan is strict! She has this thing where were only allowed to see each other on the weekend but since I have turned 18 (May this year) things have slowly started to turn and i'm allowed to see him throughout the week but I always have a curfew.. which sometimes doesn't bother me!

She doesn't know that I sleep at his house nearly every weekend, she thinks I stay at a friends house. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, everything was and still is perfect.

Because my Nan is strict we do everything to spend every second together! I know it sounds like high school love but we really love each other.

The thing is its nearly time for our sport season to start again.. My trainings are on Monday and Wednesday nights and his are on Tuesday and Thursday nights and our games are on Saturday afternoons! But my boyfriend has to travel every second weekend to play his sport and because mine is on the same day we can't always give up our sports and let our teams down to see each other. He leaves really early in the morning and gets back late at night.

We also work during the day, I work from 9 til 5 and he works from 6am til 3 in the afternoon. So during the day is out!

I guess i'm just scared of us growing apart if we weren't to have anytime together anymore! I'm probably just being stupid but it's just how I feel.

I have spoken to him about it and he understands but then he said he wont play his sport this year.. I told him not to be like that, I don't expect him to give up his sport for me! That's just out of the question!

I just don't know what to do! We love each other so much, I was a bit insecure and had a few issues with school and home before I met him and I feel like I can just be myself when i'm around him! I love him and his company and his family and we just have so much fun when were together. I can't stand to let anything come between us!

I know that if we love each other as much as we say we do nothing will come between us but how do you stay as close to someone if you hardly get to see them anymore? I don't want him to grow apart from me!

Thanks so much for your help :)

tru love never falls apart.ok what you did was wrong doing things behind your granparents and your nan because they give you there trust and you took advantage of them but anyways goin to the subject sometimes in love you have to do scrafices it may be seeing each other less or your bf quitting is sport but if you think anout it if hes willin to do the scracfice to give up his sports for you i think distance wont make ya apart.you should think are you insecure of him cheating on you cause you dont see him alot and know wat hes doin or is it really wat you say, its hard sometimes to go threw this sitiuations but sometimes with love and trust you can overcome anything .also remember if ya brake up it was meant to happen n eventually you can avoid braking up but you cant avoid whats meant to be think of this as a test and then if ya pass this ya was really meant to be
hope i helped a lil

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(Rating: 5) Thank you! I do realise what I did to my Nan was wrong but as you said.. you need to make sacrifices! I did ask her once if i could stay there and she said yes, but the next day went off at me and told me never to ask again! So I haven't! In Australia when you turn 18 your an adult, I know i'm not an adult in a lot of ways but I think I'm mature enough with my boyfriend! She should realise that! Thanks for your advice.. I appreciate it!

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