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Ok, i have my best friend, lets call her (kristy) ans i have another friend, lets call her (shannon). Ok, well i always have had kristy as my best friend but ever since last year shannon has kinda made me feel like the third wheel. Ok, well she wont let me sit by kristy at lunch anymore cuz i used to everyday. Now, kristy has kinda left me for her and she hangs out with all these different people now. I have the same freinds she has but all the friends like her so much better. When me and kristy go to places together and stuff, like basketball games at our school all of our friends will say hi to her but not me. They think she is just so facinating. When she takes me to some of the games she always talks to other people and not to me and none of the other girls will talk to me cuz they already have kristy. When they have a secret they always tell kristy and not me and all sorts of things like that. I am tired of being ignored by other people. Kristy never hardly pays any attention to me. When its just me and her she does but not when people are around. All my other friends are just interested in her now and i am feeling so left out. They always ask her to go places with them (more of shannon than anyone)when i am standing right there. Sometimes shannon will wait for kristy when she gets off the bus and i ride the same bus kristy does and if kristy is not on the bus, shannon will say "Where's rikki" as soon as she sees me getting off the bus. She dosent even say hi first. It looks like kristy dosent need me anymore but all my other friends always hang around her now. Sometimes when i am tell kristy something (story and just talking to her), if kristy sees one of her friends she will just leave me standing there in the middle of a sentence and go talk to her friend. I have tried to talk to her but she dosent listen. She's just to popular to do that. Whenever we go to the computer lab at school, she always has other firends sitting by her and i have to sit 3 or 4 seats down from them and i hera them laughing and giggling and having a good time and i am not. please help me on what to do because this is the biggest thing i have ever needed advice on because it has been happening for a very long time. thank you so much, you dont know what it means to me.

It sounds to me like you're losing your best friend. That happened to me just recently, now please don't let it happen to you, you'll regret it. Sometime when you and kristy are hangin' out alone, show her how much fun you are to be with. Remind her why you two are best friends to begin with. And when you are with her when you're other friends are around too, be the center of attention. Don't make it obvious, but when they're talking, join the conversation. Make yourself noticed. Prove to them that you are a good friend, someone that they will want to be around. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope you can fix it. Good luck girl!

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