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Well i'm in the 8th grade, and I dont have a best friend... is that bad??? I'm not saying that I am lonely and I have no friends, I have plenty of friends.. just none of them are actually my BEST friends. Arn't best friends supposed to be there for you when you're feeling low? and they always come and sleepover and you always share secrets with each other? welll it seems like whenever I go up to my other friends, they are always busy with 'their' other best friends. It's like they have no intrest in me anymore. My brother just moved away to college and my cousin is staying with us for a while. I have a dog, could that be my best friend? I just feel like I have a lot of depression going on in my life and I really need somebody to talk to. yes, i know.......... I can talk to you on advicenators, but I need somebody not only for talking... but to share my happy moments with, a best friend
and I know you'll say talk to your family.... but the thing is.. both of my parents are ALWAYS working... they leave the house way earlier than I do... and the next time I see them is when i'm asleep. Its just not fair. My brother is in college, and my cousin is always hanging out with his friends or finding some excuse not to be in the house. I'm really sad that I dont have a best friend, and I'm a very busy person.... could that be the reason why I dont have a best friend? cause i'm always busy and they never have any time with me????????
You might say join a school activity and meet friends there... but TRUST ME! I dont make friends easily, lets just say I get SUPER SUPER SUPER nervous when I meet new people, or give a speech to a class. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ALONE.... I always see kids in the hallway, hanging out with their best friends, and I am really sad that I dont have a best friend there by me. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????????
OH AND IF YOU COULD: ANOTHER QUESTION= HOW DO I GET RID OF THE FEAR OF MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND GIVING OUT SPEECHES??????????????? THANKS SOOOOOOOOO MUCH... I KNOW THIS WAS LONG, BUT THANKS
Ha, yep. I'm exactly like that.
Now I used to have no friends. No best friends.
I would stand in front of a mirror and wonder why I had no friends.
Okay, well I'm exagerrating a bit. I had friends. Just not that many.
Anyways, I only get nervous when I think about what I'm going to say and try to plan it out so that I don't sound stupid. Now hun, don't do that like me. You just gotta put yourself out there! Don't think about it at all. All you do is go up to one of your friends and start having a random conversation. If you say something stupid, don't freak out. It normally ends up as an inside joke between you two, which will make you guys closer friends.
Pick some of your friends that you think you are the closest with. Invite them to go see a movie with you at the theater and then to spend the night. Be crazy. Inside jokes will bring you closer, like I said, so don't forget that.
If they decide to tell you a secret, you have to keep it. Even if you think someone HAS to no. Just write it down on a piece of paper and rip it up. Ha, maybe it will make you feel like you've let it all out. Who knows. But, you can't tell anyone the secret no matter what it is because you might just throw your friendship right out the window. Secrets also bring you closer. Maybe you can share one with a friend?
Stand up for her if someone's rude or a jerk to her. She'll appreciate it and it won't bother her so much.
Now don't go crazy on me here soon if you don't get a best friend within a week. It takes time. At least three months, but normally more.
If you ever start getting the insane thought in your head that you're ugly. You better slap yourself or something because it isn't true. You sound like a wonderful person and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
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thanks! WOW you really boosted my self-esteem! thanks bunches!
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