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My name is Lauren. My life dream is to become a pirate, as well as a witch straight outta Hogwarts! I believe I was born in the wrong place and the wrong time. I often beleive I belong in England. I wish I was british. :] I'm 15 years old, and I'm called weird. I'm a spunky and smashing teenager ready to answer your questions.
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This is a very long story so I will shorten it as much as possible.
I had a 'best' friend for a long time but she was VERY co-dependent. She was also not a very good friend to me. Always expected me to be there for her but was never there for me, tried to steal my boyfriend, flirted outrageously with him right in front of me, was horrible to my sister and so on. The final straw was when she did something WAY out of line earlier this year (details of which I won't go into) and I told her I wanted nothing more to do with her.
That was in March and, horrible though this may sound, although I missed having a friend I haven't missed her as a person at all. Now, she's e-mailed me saying she wants to be friends again and wants me to e-mail back. I can't just not reply but I don't want to open the lines of communication up because I really don't want to ever see or hear from her again. That being said, she was kind of suicidal for a time and I just don't know what to do.
So please, any suggestions on how to respond firmly but without saying I want to be friends would be appreciated. I know it probably sounds like I'm being a bitch but believe me, there are good reasons.
Well I've been in this situation as well, and it wasn't easy.
The thing is, when friendships end, it's usually for a reason. And if you get back together with that friend, it doesn't make the old problems go away. The old problems will work their ways back into the friendship, leading to a humungous blowout.
I suggest telling your friend that you'll give them a chance. For all you know, they could have easily changed. But when you get with them, and the old problems start to come back, just let them know that you're feeling the same way you did before and after you two fought. Here, to avoid her becoming too depressed, it might be wise to use a little white lie and say that Although you may have missed her, the old problems are still there and cannot be solved, so you believe that maybe you are better off not being friends.
I hope this helped you. :]
(Rating: 4) Thanks for the advice. It is difficult..but I can't give her another chance. She's already had so many and I can't risk it again. Thanks for your help.