I go by Ahnee, to some. and you.
I live in Orange County CA, and it's not as great as it seems. it's just as shady as everywhere else but we're polite enough to keep it behind closed doors. Great.
I'm in highschool.
I have an opinion on just about EVERYTHING, but won't give it to you unless you ask.
I talk to people.
Sometimes i can just be a brutally honest bitch, don't ask me a question you don't want a real answer to. I refuse to coat my thoughts in sugar
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I'm torn and at a loss. I'm very close friends with a married couple. The husband has become like my brother. He's very protective of me and has been there for me more than I could ever ask for. I go to church with him, his wife, kids, and his parents. Well, a little over a year ago me and my fiance broke up and I got into the whole partying scene with his wife. One night, this guy was over at their house and she was prancing in front of this guy in a short tshirt and thongs. I ignored it. Then at this party a month or so later, a bunch of us were playing poker and it turned into strip poker. I quit, but she continued playing (she was the only woman playing). She was sitting in a guy's lap and the only thing she was down to was her thongs and cowboy hat. I felt this alone was cheating. Well, things went a little further that night and she told me that her and him kissed. But I feel it may have went further than that. They continued calling each other for a week or so after this happened. I urged her to stop. She'd admit that it was bad, but she would continue. So, I backed off and got back in church. This summer we started hanging out again, and before I know it - I'm pulled right back into the same situation - knowing and seeing her mess with this guy. I've recently found out that she's been with a few more guys that I know. It's so hard for me - I want to tell her husband so bad because it's unfair to him. But I've vowed to stay out of it.
More bad news...I've fallen for her husband hard. Feelings I've never felt before, I'm feeling for him. Sometimes the way he looks at me and talks to me - I feel he may feel the same way. My mom believes he feels feelings for me also but he's trying so hard to make his marriage work. His mother has made comments to me and my mom before that she wishes he would have met me before his current wife because he would date me in a heartbeat. I've backed off from him because I know I don't need to feel the way I do. But he'll call me or will come see me and I just break down b/c it hurts so much. I just dont know what to do. Can someone help me and steer me into a direction that's right? I don't feel I'm in a position to be a homewrecker... (link)
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ok i guess ill just throw my opinion out there.
you need to tell youre friend that she either needs to tell her husband or you will. this may sound messed up but he seems to be a close friend, someone you would even say is as close as a brother. I'm sure he would do the same for you. If you do tell him and they break up I don't suggest throwing yourself into a relationship with him for quite a while. You know when children are involved it just makes things that much more difficult. but you can't let a friend go on hurting like this, it isn't fair to anyone.
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Thank you so much! Of all the things I've thought of doing, that never crossed my mind. Having her come clean or I would. Thank you so much.
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