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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer.

I don't.

But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.

If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...

Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...

I'll always listen.

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Hey Advicenators =D
A lot of time has passed, and I feel that I have become a socially awkward person. I have trouble trusting people like I did before, or having a deep, and productive conversation with someone for more than 10 minutes... It hurts me because I feel like I'm growing more distant from those closest to me, my friends and even my family. I don't know why, but I feel that this sort of "anti-socialism" stems from prior experiences where I've trusted some people, only to be taken advantage of later. Is there anything I can do to help my situation?

Thanks a million ♥

I don't think what you're going through neccessarily sounds like depression...however, this could be a subconscious way for your mind to keep you from getting hurt again, and to avoid any unneccessary pain.

While in your mind this method may seem ideal, it will only hurt more in the long run, and that I can guarantee.

My suggestion is to take 30 minutes to an hour and write a quick list of those who hurt you, just the names and maybe a note or two about them and then flip to the next page. On the next page list everyone whom you know deeply cares for you and would never hurt you on purpose. Then, put the notebook away...

What you are essentially doing there is "boxing" those memories, not forgetting them, just filing them away in a place where they cannot clog your mind but still be easily accessed. And each time something happens and someone has truly hurt you, take out the notebook and pencil their name...and then flip to the section with everyone who cares about you (Hell, someone like your mom or your best friend could easily end up on both lists!) and just glance over it to remind yourself about all those who care about you.

And once you've done that here comes the harder and even cheesier part, Forgive them. You don't neccessarily have to tell them or even be friends again, but you'll feel better if you can find it within yourself to forgive them and move on.

Try to understand that everyone doesn't always do the right thing, and that sometimes when they make a mistake and end up hurting...its not because they don't care, but because it was a mistake...

I hope this helps...

--Star


(If you wanna talk more, please e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net)

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(Rating: 5) Hey Star!
Thank you soo much for your advice... Just reading it made me feel muchhh better, and I know that this is truly helpful. Again, thank you sooo much.
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