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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer.

I don't.

But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.

If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...

Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...

I'll always listen.

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ok well ive liked this guy since around the time school started. then he started going out with my friend and they barely ever talk or do anything. they look uncomfortable around eachother but yesterday after school they kissed. all that keeps playing in my head is him leaning down to kiss her. please tell me what i can do to block that image out of my head and not be so worried that anytime i turn around they will be kissing

Try this:

Play it in your mind one time without cringing, or tearing up, or even disgust. Play it one time and one time only, and then file it away like you would if you saw it happen in some movie a long time ago. When you see them at school, think of something else...find another memory that you have of your friend and use that to block out the other image.

If they do start making out at every corner, sometime when its just the two of you, suggest that they tone it down...at least in public, and if they are making you uncomfortable, sit her down and tell her just that. You don't have to tell her why, because that could put a strain on your relationship, just tell her that she is uncomfortable. Plain and simple.

If she really cares enough, she'll do her best to take your feelings into consideration.


(Hope this helps! Wanna talk more? Feel free to contact me at either cardenb@countryday.net)

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