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Q: Okay here's the thing, I hate my "best friend". hate her. I blame her for almost all my misery (even though i know it's wrong, so you don't have to tell me that.. because it wont make a difference, i still need to get her out of my life!) the more I hang out with her, the more I become her..and I hate myself now. I stuck with her cause I felt sorry for her, she's kinda pathetic.. (wow i know how bad that sounds, i know im a terrible friend.. but i just.. i dont know) anyways, i stuck with her, even started in her class, and because of that (no one really likes her) ive become one of those poeple who arent really in the class, its like me and her are our own little group and the rest of the class is a group.. now im used to being popular, having friends etc because that's what makes me happy! im sick of being just me and her! and she kinda pisses me off, everything she says annoys me.. but since it's been going on for 2 years. I can't stop. I'm stuck.. like, it's been me and her for two years, so i cant just stop hanging out with her, and start being with the rest of my class, that will look so weird!! and we've beend oing all class projects and everything together, so it's ALWAYS me and her.. ugghhh i HAAATE IT! its easy for me to make friends, i could easily become a part of the class if she would just leave, burt with her, im stuck. it just won't work! like you dont understand, its gotten to the point were ive been skipping school for weeks now because i dont wanna be with her, she makes me miserablee.. but i have no choice, i cant even change schools, trust me ive looked in to it.. so what do i do?? PLEASE HELP. im becoming more and more like it, i can tell, and i hate it..
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since you two are best friends, and you've been together for a couple of years, if you just completley stop being friends with her, she will probably be very upset. and i know right now you're really annoyed with her, but you probably don't hate her. just think of all the good times you've had. you're probably just sick of hanging out with her and only her, and you probably feel like she is holding you back from being with your other friends and having other oppurtunities - which may be happening. i'm confused, though - while you're not at school for "weeks", what does your friend do? hang out by herself? if she has absolutely NO other friends, you dropping her could be devastating. so, even though you want to, i wouldn't just drop her. if you can, try and talk to her - if you've been best friends, you should be able to talk and understand eachother. say your point of view, and listen to hers too. don't yell or anything, jsut try and have a talk [in person]. tell her how you feel, but in a nicer version. like, "i know we've been really close, but i think we would both benefit from meeting other people, too." then, don't CoMPlETLEY stop hanging out with her, but try and make other friends to. in your class, maybe for a project you can ask someone else to be your partner. if you can work in groups, maybe you and your friend can try working with other people so you can both make new friends. try hanging out iwth other people, but don't completley ditch your friend - still hang out wiht her sometimes too. after awhile, when youve both made new friends, you may find yourself missing her, and your time together in which case you might stay best friends. or not.. maybe your just not right for each other. it all depends. anyway i hope i helped =] good luck with everything.
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yeah you helped sooo much! thaank you! im coming to you with all problems concerning her.. thaaankksss :)ill try talking to her this weekend and ill tell you what happened!
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Website: Gender: Female Location: California Age: 16 Member Since: February 28, 2006 Answers: 277 Last Update: August 14, 2007 Visitors: 16673
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