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Q: Hi. I'm fifteen years old and i'm a female. I've had my naval pierced for about a year now, and I have my ears pierced twice in both ears. Now however, i'm wanting to get my tongue pierced. I've been wanting it done for about 3 months now, and i've done my research. I know the positives, the negatives, and all the care needed. I've done so well with all my other piercings, and I know I can take care of my tongue if I get it pierced. The problem is, my mom won't allow it. I don't understand why? She was ok with all of my other piercings and I don't understand why this one is any different. My question is, what makes this piercing any different, and what can I say to her to make her change her mind?

Thank you all in advance.

Hi! I think you're approaching this the right way so far. By doing research and weighing the pros and cons, you know all the information about it.

I think some suggestions I can make would be to have a long conversation with your mom. When you do this you really want to be mature and listen to her side. Don't just block out her opinions. This is very important. Also, it could be very helpful to print out some information that you found and have her read it over. You could explain that you've continued to take care of your piercings and that this is something that you could try out.

If money is a factor of why you can't have this done, I would offer to pay for it yourself. Work really hard for it if you want it bad enough.

Maybe the best thing to do is to go to a local tattoo or piercing place with your mom and you could talk to the people who work there about the tongue piercing before you make any decisions. Hopefully she'll at least be willing to do that.

I think the biggest concern with tongue piercings is the fact that bateria from your mouth and the metal combines which could lead to infection.

Also the transmissions of dieseases is rare but can occur. (Talk about this to your mom, maybe research or ask a professional).

If all else fails, I heard that bugging your mom everyday could work. Of course this depends on the type of person your mom is. I don't know about this one. LOL

Good luck,
-Shannon

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