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Hey all, I have been with a therapist now for about three sessions(booked in because of my difficulties with men). I have come to really like him, in fact I feel a real bond with him. Three obvious problems-1)I have no idea if he feels the same(have NO reason to suppose so), 2)even if he did, it would be against professional protocol 3) I am fully aware that the feelings I am experiencing MIGHT be no more than what is commonly called "transference" ie the transfeering of feelings for an old boyfriend (or w/e) onto a therapist.
Taking that all into account,I am seriously considering asking him to go out with me when I am discharged. Does anyone think that this is acceptable behaviour, or is it frowned on in itself, as a symptom of instability?
P.S. I googled him and discovered that he was a member of SETI. (School of Extra Terrestial Intelligence). My self, I think it's weird, but if anyone else could shed light on this aspect, it would be much appreciated.
Thanks. (link)
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Hiya. I'm currently training to be a therapist, so thought I'd answer your question.
Your feelings might be genuine or they might be transference; the point is that you are having them. If you felt able, it might be a good idea to talk honestly with your therapist about them.
With regards to whether your therapist would be willing to date you, I would say that it is probably against his ethical framework - even after you are no longer his client. Again, discuss this with your therapist when you feel comfortable. You might be surprised at how honest conversation about these feelings in therapy can really deepen your opportunity for growth.
I really have no comment on the SETI issue; different strokes for different folks. If you feel this might have an impact on your therapy, again, I would encourage you to mention it to him.
Best of luck!
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Thanks for the inside dope. I reckon you're right, and that he wouldn't date me. I really don't think that I can talk to him about it-I am sure that he would be awkward and embarrased, and feel obliged to terminate our contract.
But thanks again!
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