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okay this is going to be freaking huge haha.
well, i'm in a class that does video announcements from school. and my best friend is in that class, which is a great awesome thing. anyway, her and i, and another girl are in the same group. so my friend has this thing, where (to me) it seems like she acts like she knows everything about anything. and when i give an opinion about stuff, its either shot down or she gives me a reason why it won't work, or why we can't do it. i understand that. but its the way she says it, like im stupid or something. so sometimes i just kinda sit there..i don't look mad or sad or happy or anything, its just a blah kind of state. she tells me to do stuff and then i'll try and do it and she ends up taking over because she doesn't have the patience. and then i feel bad because she makes it seem like its so bad that i don't do everything exactly right or exactly the way she wants me to. and today, she made a big deal about how she was the only person who edited our last piece like if we made her do all the work. which isn't true, she hardly ever gave us the chance to do anything. all we really did was give an opinion on something, and i researched the information. and also, if i do say something she'll say "don't get all mad"..which is so annoying because i'm not mad!!! i just wanna figure out how to do stuff without her breathing down my back and telling me what to do. im not trying to be a control freak or anything, but i do want a say in some of the stuff we do. and then when i do give a good idea, she doesn't say oh good idea or tell me anything nice, she just acts like its a big pain to her. i don't get it. but i love that girl to death, outside of class its so much different we have so much fun all the time no matter what. its just inside class she acts different. and she's really disrespectful towards our teacher, which i hate. i try and show as much respect for him as possible, but when she acts rude towards him, he lectures our whole group. i've been lectured enough in my life, so i try and avoid it.
if i tryed to tell her how she's acting, or tell her to quit, she'll just turn around and start telling me stuff that i'm doing too and that she's not the only one being "mean" or whatever she wants to call it. i hate it, i don't know how to talk to her at all about this whole thing. and honestly i'm scared, because i don't like arguing with people, i don't like when they get mad or offended, and i hate the whole "shut up" look. drives me insane.
any advice on how to deal with this all would be SO appreciated. (link)
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try talking to her when your not in video announcement class. Don't raise your voice even if she does and try to be rational. Don't yell or accuse her of anything. Just tell her that sometimes you feel hurt when she doesn't give your ideas a chance. If this doesnt work than try being really nice to her in video announcement class. If none of these ideas work, maybe you should find another friend. I know that sounds super harsh but a friend who is mean to you constantly might not be the kind of best friend. I'm not saying you can't be friends but maybe it would be best to find another friend to hang out with in video announcement.
Another idea: ask your teacher if he could move you to another grouo and not tell your friend that you asked him. You said that she is rude to your teacher, so chance is he notices her behavior. That way you can tell your friend your teacher made you change groups. That way you get to hang out with yur friend when she's nice-and not when she's not! hope i helped.
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