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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses.

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ok im 13/f and i really want to have sex and like its like i really need it. its weird cause i like get these erges to do it. is this normal for a 13 year old?

Yes, it is normal to desire sex at this age. Your body is starting to produce hormones and trying to figure out what to do with them. Eventually, not that long really, your body's chemicals will even out. Then, the urges won't be as strong. They will still be there, of course, because that is how nature makes sure we continue to exist, but they will not feel so strange or urgent.
Now, I had sex at 16. I do not regret it. Between then and age 20, I had a lot of sex with a lot of men. I don't regret that either. But that is my experience. Everyone is different. I am sharing it just to give a different point of view. Just because I don't have regrets, doesn't mean others won't. I was also 3 years older than you are, and that short time can make a difference.
Sure, you can satisfy those urges now by having sex, but I will tell you honestly that sex with someone you love is so much better. I loved the man I lost my virginity to. Still do. In fact, I married him.
Everyone else who has answered you is also right. You need to consider what it would be like to be a mother at 13, or to get an std. Some are treatable, but many aren't. My own mother had a child at 13. While she loves my sister, she had to grow up too fast. She missed a lot of her childhood, including all of high school.
I think you should wait for the right person. Only you will know when that person comes around and only you will know when you are actually ready. But you are not really ready unless you both are aware of the consequences and willing (and able) to accept them.
In the meantime, masturbation is acceptable and will help calm the urges. And, like I said, they will lessen over time.

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(Rating: 5) thx thats a really good answer
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