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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses.

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14/F
lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand.

One thing I have learned about depression is that it is often hereditary. It seems that may be your case, if your mom keeps turning it around when you try to talk to her. Hereditary depression often involves a chemical imbalance. While it can be helped by making changes in your life and your outlook, medication is often needed to correct the imbalance. Now, I am not pushing meds here. I am just speaking from my experience. I learned the hard way that sometimes meds are needed. I learned by taking about half a bottle of Excederin PM and ending up in the ER getting my stomach pumped.
You are losing relationships with family and friends, and you have stopped enjoying things you used to. Your self esteem is shot. I could tell you that with your height your weight is very normal, even thin. I could tell you that you can snap out of your mood if you really want to. But I don't think that will help. It didn't help me when I was at the point where you describe yourself. Tell your mom flat out that you are concerned about your health. If she turns it around on you, listen to her for a bit and be helpful. She may be more likely to listen to you. If she doesn't listen and get you to a doctor right away, is there any other adult in your family who could? I don't mean to be insensitive, just going by what you said, I wonder where your father is. Is he able to help you? Perhaps you have an aunt who could take you to a doctor. There are mental health clinics that you could go to that have sliding scales so what you pay is determined by income. I don't know how that works for teens, but it is something to look into.
Whatever happens, this is not something to take lightly. I am glad to see you recognize that and are seeking help whereever you can. Please get professional advice. If you do have to take antidepressants, keep in mind that since you are so young, you will likely not have to take them for too long. You can have a normal life again.
Oh, also, antidepressants aren't really happy pills. They pretty much level you out. I don't like how flat I feel taking them, but it is a heck of a lot better than the violent depression I had.
Good luck, and if you need anything, even just someone to listen too, I have been where you are and am here to help.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much. you seem like the only one that understandss
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