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my name is heather. i am pagan. i love to be around people and be outgoing. i'm a former cheerleader and basketball player. i go to north shore technical high school. i love to read, write, chat, play sports, you name it.

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My boyfriend is moving to a new school, and ever since then, he has changed a lot...
Before, he cared about me more than anyone I have ever known... but now, he expects me to pay attention to him, understand him, call him every night, and to support him... and everytime I do what he wants me to do, he'll say that I'm too sensitive, and then he'll ignore me. I mean, he doesn't even appreciate my feelings... and he doesn't try to understand me! Why do I have to understand about everything and he doesn't?!
I really really want to break up with him, but I can't... I still love him, and I know... that no one cares about him except for me.. I'm the only person who ever cares about him and understands him, because he's a very lonely person... if I am not there for him, then no one will... and that kills him...
But now, I don't even know what to do... I'm mad at him to the greatest extend and I feel sorry for him at the same time... Because in his life, his parents are always away and I am the very first person who ever makes him happy...
Please, tell me what to do... or at least, tell me what he might be thinking by now.. because I can't stand it!! He loves me but he pays me no mind... help me!!

My advice is to see if you can just slowly give each other space. That way, you're still together but you don't really have to worry too much about pleasing just him and you can go out and do stuff for yourself. You don't want to be in a relationship where you don't feel wanted. Or maybe you guys can just be close friends, that way you're still there for him, you're just not together. Or maybe you can just explain the situation and just say "Why am I the one working on the relationship and not you?" or "Can we both try to learn about each other and support each other instead of just me supporting you?" I hope everything goes well.


--Heather

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(Rating: 5) Thank you... I do need good advice... My, I'm stressed out!! Thank you so much!!
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