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ok so my mom is an alcoholic and shes gotton 2 DUI's and she's gotton in a drinking and driving accident and shes gone to rehab and goes to alot of AA meetings but she still drinks aout oncce or twice a week and the only peoeple in my house is my mom and my little sister and me, since my dad died of cancer a few years ago. and since im the oldest i have responsibilty for the family since my mom cant really take care of me and my sister. i really want to talk to her and try to live a normal life but i dont know how. i just need advice on what your opinion would be on waht i should do.
Wow, I'm so sorry. I really am.
It's good to share your feelings with a friend, but it's also important to talk to an adult you trust. A school counselor, teacher, or a coach may be able to help. You could also try talking to your D.A.R.E. (Drug and Alcohol Resistance Education) officer if you have one. You can even try and find a sympathetic uncle or aunt to talk to about it. Because alcoholism is such a widespread problem, there are many organizations that offer confidential support groups and meetings for people living with alcoholics. Al-Anon, which is an organization designed to help the families and friends of alcoholics, has a group called Alateen that is for young people living with adults who have drinking problems. Alateen is not only for children of alcoholics, it can also help teens whose parents may already be in recovery. Another group called Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) also offers a variety of programs and resources for people living with alcoholics. You're not betraying your parent by seeking help. Keeping "the secret" is part of the disease of alcoholism - and it allows the problems to get worse. As with any disease, it's still possible to love a parent while recognizing that he or she has alcoholism. And it's not disloyal to seek help in dealing with the problems your parent's drinking create for you.
If no one that you talk to can help you then you can try this:
Make sure that she is not drinking.
Relax and without sounding angry, say, "Mom? Can I talk to you for a minute?"
Then wait for her to give you her attention.
Continue and say, "I can't keep living like this my whole life. When you drink, I have to be the one in charge. I have to take care of myself and (your sisters name). I just can't do it anymore. I just want to be like everyone else and live a normal life for once. I love you but, please, mom, just please, stop drinking."
If you feel that your situation at home is becoming dangerous, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE. And never hesitate to dial 911 if you think you or another family member is in immediate danger.
I hope I helped!
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wow thank you!!
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