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Hi everyone, this is the first time im trying this site, but my situation has gotten so serious, i really need some advice from outsiders. Im a 18 year old male.
Alright, the situation is that at our college we have this group of friends that we all hang out in. We are all a pretty close knit group, go to the movies together, lime at each others houses etc.. In this group there are a few relationships, one of which is Julia and Danny. They were in this constant on and off sort of thing for 3 years, he would break it off to give her space and they used to fight all the time. One time when it was off, me and Julia started talking alot, some flirting started and she eventually told me she liked me and i admitted i did to. I had liked her but was always afraid to admit it. Anyways, things took off from there and everything was great. She still didnt want to commit so soon after ending a 3 year relationship..which i understood..so we just dated.
But then we started to do "stuff". Not sex, but nearly evreything except sex. And I am not the type of person who just gets into a relationship to do stuff. I really want to be comitted..and even though we do evreything a commited couple do, knowing that we werent really together and she still thinks about gettin back together with him really pulls at my heart.
I have really falling in Love with Julia, I do these spontaneous things around her that in never knew i was capable of and she makes me feel complete. I know it is not Infatuation cause i have felt that before with another girl and this is far different. And btw, we have been out for two months constantly now, and we find it impossible to argue with each other.
The real twist in our relationship now, is that now he really wants her back, and he is saying all this mushy stuff like "he is changed person and wil treat her better". HE USED TO IGNORE HER FOR VIDEOGAMES! and didnt make alot of sacrifices for her. I would sacrifice anything for her. and i mean ANYTHING. So now she is between two minds wether to hold onto the past or wether to move on to something new. And she was kissing both of us at one point...now she has stopped kissing both of us till she makes her decision. Plz give ur comments on this situation, I want to be with her so badly it hurts...and give her some advice too, and i will relay it..anything is much appreciated (link)
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Don't bug her about choosing you, cuz that will annoy her. But talk to her tell her how much you care about her, then tell her whichever choice she makes you'll still be there for her, if you really will be there for her. That way she'll know that you care about her and support her which could make her choose you. But don't try to convice her to pick you to the point where it gets super annoying. Hope I helped!
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