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Ok its me with my boyfriend problem again! You know the one when my boyfriends 3 years older then me! Well all my aunts know now. And im so embarresed! And all my aunts were and still are really good friends with my boyfrineds mom. Now like my whole family knows! And barely any 1 in his family knows about me. All the people my age that know me are just finding out! And some are refusing it. Some say it's not true! I dont know what to do! I really love him but i'm not sure it will work out. And one more thing his little brother is my age and we are only teens and so is my boyfriend. But remember he is 3 years older. Should i stay with him or dump him because i could get a really bad reputation in my family and friends? (link)
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Now wait a minute... A three year age difference isn't bad. My girlfriend is three years younger than I am, and we work through every problem that comes up; the age difference doesn't matter at all. We never really think about it, because it matters so little. What should matter in a relationship is how much you really love the person.
I don't mean to be rude or anything here... but is it actually your friends and relatives that are worried about the age difference or is it you? There doesn't seem to be much evidance of people attacking your relationship because of the age. It honestly sounds like you're more worried then they are. If that's the case, ask yourself what you have to worry about. Is there any reason? You love him, I assume. And you want to be with him, right? Why break up over an age difference? That's not bad at all compared to other things: he's not cheating on you, he's not using you, he doesn't insult and degrade you. (I hope he doesn't)
A relationship can be tough at times, but when you stick with it and give it your all, it makes it all the more worthwhile. Think of it like a savings account: the more you put into it, the more valuable it is. (maybe that's a dumb comparison, but meh)
If you ARE getting flack from your friends and family, don't get discouraged! This is YOUR life, YOUR relationship, YOUR decision. Regardless of how hard they try, they can't change that unless you let them. Peer pressure is no excuse for a break up unless the relationship is abusive. Sometimes people just get a kick out of telling others what to do and controlling other's lives. If you let them push you around in a relationship, that's telling them they can push you around in anything.
Show that you're confident in the relationship, show people that you really love your boyfriend and he loves you. People will see that and respect you and your decisions if they know you're happy.
Talk to your boyfriend about it. Maybe he can help you. Tell him the feelings you're getting from other people and perhaps you two can come up with a solution. A relationship takes two people at all times. You shouldn't get a bad reputation for an age difference, three years appart is nothing to be ashamed of!
Good luck! ^_^ I hope everything turns out for the best! If you need any more help, feel free to drop a question in my inbox!
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Heyy thanks! You seem to know what you are talking about. But i'm just afraid when school comes around he will find a girl in is school whos his age and dump me for her. Even though he doesnt seem like the kind of person who would do that. Well thanxs anyway i would like to hear from you again some time. Because you have good advice for my school problem.
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