My name is Heather im 14 going into high school. I play basketball and volleyball, and just enjoy partying and gettin out with my friends. Im really good on advice, like everyone comes to me. Things that are serious that i've done is helped a kid get out of wanting to kill himself. I'm realy nice and i just love to help anyone and everyone, ill try my best to help you out.
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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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well for one how old are you, if your like 14 or older then its completely like normal to want to do more than just that. Parents are always strict, but if your young it might be good. Its really cute that you guys only do that much when you've been goin out that long, its a good sign. Showing that you guys love each other because of who you are instead of what you can do. Now dont feel guilty if you guys do more, my parents were really strict about all that stuff to. But i went behind there backs and did it anyways. Yeah at first a felt guilty but honestly its between you and your boyfreind not you him and your parents. If you guys are goin to do something make sure your both comfortable and agree with it. Make sure you are completely alone, like i wouldnt do it if the parents are home. Mean while around your parents only do what you would normally do. They just care about you and dont want you to get hurt or maybe even eventualy pregnant. Trust me, almost everyones parents are like that. Just do what you guys wanna do, comfortably! I hopee i helped and good luck! =)
Well since you guys are that age and youve been together that long i think it would def. be fine to start taking things more physical. Since your parents are like always home or around you, maybe you are allowed to go to his house? if not then maybe you should try talkin to your parents...haha or be a badass and hang out with him behind there backs somewhere else. Just remember though, there's no reason for regret.. all parents are lilke that, but they should know you're growin up and you found somenoe who you can REALLLYY TRUST. Thats so cute just everything about you two how you were best friends before, i just got outta a relationship like thatt. lol but yeahh really i wish you the best of luck and hope things go well for you to!=)
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thank you. :] i added additional information. i'll be 15 in a couple of weeks. he's 16. we're only a year & 2 months apart. it's not much considering married couples are usually 2 or more.
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