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born and raised in chi-town.(a.k.a.- chicago- for the slow kids)Last time i checked, i was a girl.and i have 10 piercings- 9 of which i did myself.(all but my eyebrow). fun stuff.

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so here it goes
we started going out about 6 months ago. Everything was perfect. he loved me and he wanted to be the best boyfriend he could be. about a month into the relationship we had sex for the first time. i know it seems forward, but we were friends with benefits four months prior to going out.. after we had sex. we started fighting alot. he was trying to get involved with dealing drugs..and i thought he was doing drugs.. and yeah that was our first fight. we resolved it and then my best friend told me she had heard his friends talking about smoking weed with him and stuff.. so i flipped out on him again.. and he was really upset .. because he doesnt do that.. and he didnt want to lose me. we kept fighting over things.. soon my friend told me she hated him and he treats me like shit and i need to leave him. and i do admit.. he could have treated me with ALOT more respect. he always complained about what i looked like.. he never told me i was beautiful.. if i didnt wear something "sexy" i wouldnt get any sort of attention at all. where as he used to stare into my eyes and tell me how beautiful i was.. we were almost going out for 5 months when we got into a huge fight.. because i had his myspace password and he kept sending girls messages telling them how sexy they were. this hurt me.. and he ended up flipping out on me.. and im one of those kind of people who cant go to sleep at night knowing someones mad at them.. so i had him stay on the phone with me for 4 hours trying to resolve the problem...in the morning he apologised but i was still hurt and sick of the fighting .. so i sent him an email telling him how horrible he treats me. he ended up breaking up with me. it was dramatic.. he cried when he did it. so i know he didnt want to. the next day.. we didnt even look at eachother in school.. i came online when i got hoem and he begged for me back.. and i gave in. .we were just going to take a break and i gave in. the next day i asked him if we were still going to get back together eventually..and he said "idk i only said that to make you feel better" and i went to his house and screamed at him .. because he lead me on again. and then he said he'd go out with me until summer comes.. because he wants to do his own thing over the summer. stupidly i agreed. and we went out .. we've been going out.. but he's been different.. i say "i love you" and he either jokes around and makes sum dumb comment or he mumbles it back.. he tries to strangle me sometimes. .and i honestly cant tell if hes fooling around or not. we wrestled the other day.. just cutsy bf gf wrestling.. and then he started punching me.. and stuff.. and his friend saw and he was like "woah stop thats not cool" .. i have a huge buise on my arm from him punching me. and while we were wrestling i accidently kicked him in the balls.. he knew it was an accident but he still flipped out on me .. he wrapped his arm around my neck and put his hand over my mouth and nose. he held it there for a while too.. i started crying and he just kissed me better.. but still . we broke up today.. and we're supposed to be getting together next school year.. but i just want to know.. is this too serious? because i know when im in a bad situation i never notice how bad it REALLY is.. and i just want to be safe.

please, please, please, please- do yourself a favor and get out fo this as soon as you can. no guy shuld even think about laying his hand on a girl in that way. my fiance jokes around with me- asking if id ever fight him- but he has never hit me, punched me, even wrestled with me in a demeaning way. i think if you dont get out of this mess, you will really regret it in the future. at least do me the favor, and seriously think about all the bad things that could happen. i dont know you- but i do know that you need to get out of all this and real soon. please stay in contact with me- id really like to know how everything goes.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much.. its like im telling myself the same exact thing in the back of my mind.. but i kid of blocked my consience off.. its complicated
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