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Hey! My names Sam, I started my advice column awhile ago, but when my computer messed up I forgot all about it. Well now I'm back and still going to give everyone the best advice I can give. The advice that I give is the advice I would use on myself. Giving advice is one of my favorite things to do. If anyone wants to ask me something just drop a message in my mail and Iâ??ll gladly answer it the best way that I can. =)

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I have a friend who I have known for a couple years now. She lives far enough away so that it would be hard for me to go and see her. Though lately I've talked to her on the phone and IM. I enjoy talking to her and remembering the good times that we had, but there's one problem: she was one of my biggest crushes ever. I have a girlfriend now, and I am VERY happy with her, in fact, happier than I've ever been in my life. But when I talk to my friend, the memories of good times come back, as well as the memories of how much I liked her and the memories of being rejected by her.

Now she tells me that she wants me to come visit sometime, yet I know that there are other guys that she's interested in, so I don't think that she wants to see me again in hopes of starting a relationship. But if talking to her hurts, how much would seeing her hurt me? Is there a way I can help her to understand what contacting her does to me? Or should I just live with it?

I love my girlfriend very much, and I know that she, not my other friend, could ver likely be the girl I will marry. I have no intention of leaving my girlfriend for my other friend, either, and I would NEVER cheat on the girl I love.

So along with those other questions is this: is there a way to keep my relationship AND my friendship? Or do I have to choose? If it does come to a choice, though, I know that I could say goodbye to my friend.

Thanks for you time!

hmm this is difficult, in the end, if you have to choose you should always choose the person you know is always going to be there through everything. If you feel uncomfortable talking to her you should tell her how you feel. If she is truly a good friend she will understand. If you're afraid she'll get mad or be depressed over it than it may be better to live with it but i know how hard that can be. Seeing her may fix things if she has other guys she's attracted to than maybe she just wants to be friends with you.

-hope everything works out for the best!-
~Sam

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