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I know we all have insecurities, but I'm pretty sure no one is as paranoid as I am. I'm not fat, but I'm not really skinny either. All the girls in my school seriously look like they are anorexic and the guys are all over them. I thought guys like curvy girls. Anyway, my best friend is a freakin' twig, and she has all these guys all over her. Seriously. It doesn't stop. Two of them even came to her house when she was sick because they're like obsessed with her because she's so beautiful. And I know I'm not ugly, but something inside of me keeps telling me that I am, and I need to get skinnier and more slutty and wear more make-up or stop wearing my hear a certain way. I used to be a really confident girl, but it's all changed now. I know like 2 guys think I'm hot, but that's TWO guys out of the whole school. Everyone likes my best friend. I mean everyone. It makes me sick.

So, my question is, how do I make that little voice inside my head stop saying "you're so fat, you need to be more like Danielle" or "don't do your makeup like that, that looks gross"?

If your not too fat or not to skinny then that means your about average. which is good because you dont want to much meat on your bones, but you also dont want to look like a twig. and be able to get hurt easily. :/ Im about average too. and alot of boys like me but most the time its not a good thing. you always got all these boys crawling all over you. basically being on your nuts. if you know what i mean. And most the time all the ugly boys come to you and if the hot ones do then you end up liking two of the hot ones. I mean its not bad to have alot of boys liking you but believe it or not. it does get annoying.

you shouldnt have to wear makeup to get a boyfriend or to feel better about yourself. its just not right. if all those boys are hanging all over your friend because of how she looks and not her personality ... then who wants boys like that. they only want one thing. to get in your pants. let your friend make that mistake with one of them. just dont you do it. you should not be worried about all the boys liking her. it doesnt matter. yes possibly shes really skinny and if you ask me thats gross.

dont put on to much makeup or wear skanky clothes to get noticed. thats like asking to be called a hoe or having the reputation of one. The boys that only want sex will come to you if you dress like that. but if you dress proper like a girl then most likely you will find a hot boy thats not only in it for sexual stuff.

now if you are serious about loosing weight then exercise and eat healthy! they have good exercises in cosmo girl magazine. and you can also do them at home. and if you are to lazy to exercise just cut back on the sugar and soda . it will help.

just what ever you do dont starve yourself. i did that one time when i was 12. yes 12! it was crazy i starved myself for like 2 weeks and then i got sick of it. yes i did loose weight but once i started eating again i gained all the weight back and more!! and at some point i would of had to eat. if i wouldnt of i would of got sick or just died because humans cant go for eternity without eating. :/ just take care of your body. and respect it. who cares what other people think? just believe you are beautiful inside and out. which im pretty sure you are. just what ever you do dont do anything to harm your body in any way. it will do serious damage to you in the future and no boy wants a total skeleton for a gf.

i hope i helped you out.

love kayla

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, that helped me out a lot :)
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