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Didn't know whether to put this under relationships or spiruality, but here it is.
Ok, so i was with this guy for 7 months, we broke up a while back and have jsut got back together.
We're both Christians. We had a greart relationship, and I completely adore him, but one of the problems with it was the whole sex thing. We weren't having sex, we're only 15 and fully intend to save sex for marriage but apparently most guys find it harder to control than girls. We went further than we wanted to quite a few times and regretted it later. We've prayed a lot about the issue, and when we're talking rationally, we both know that less is more. We want to keep as much physical stuff as possible for later on. But that's easier to say than do. It often seemed like he wanted to keep going, and I knew we should stop. It was always me that had to say no. And after a while, it makes you feel bad, constantly having to say no to your boyfriend.
So my question is, now we're back together, ready for a new start and really want to make this relationship work, how can we help ourselves to stay in control and put God first in this area of our relationship?
Sorry it's so long, and thanks (: (link)
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Let him know that your morals haven't changed about being physically intimate and that you want God to be your number one prioroty. If he can't respect that then it is no use to start the relationship up again because its just going to lead to the same problem. If you don't want to feel pressured about saying no then you need to make sure that he is in an agreement with your beliefs. Its one thing to be a Christian but its another thing to act in it. So if he is a Christian like he says he is then he shouldn't pressure you. I know temptation is hard so you shouldn't put yourself in a position that will make it even more challenging for you.
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Thans, I really appreciate it (:
I chatted to him tonight, and he says he definately wants to put God first, and we even wrote out a promise tp each other and God to keep our purity and stuff.
Thanks again. xxx
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