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I have worked in social services (nonprofits) for over two decades. At this point, there is little I've not heard, and therefore, I am able to give pretty grounded advice.
I like to write, and I'm currently working on my first novel. I created a 5-week workshop series for midlife women; and, I also have a midlife advice column in a small SF Bay Area paper.
Feel free to ask me whatever is on your mind &/or in your heart. I'm here, just ask!
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Gender: Female
Location: Berkeley, CA
Occupation: Social Worker, Fiction Writer & Poet, Workshop Leader
Member Since: April 5, 2006
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ok to tell it all short my brothers going to court and may be sent away .my moms in the hostpital she has been for 3 days .my other brother is named the good child.my family has 5 people in it and im the only girl so i clean cook and do laundry.i cnat believe my mom has done it for 20 years ive done it for 4 days.i have so much gratitude for her and ill never mesure up.i am slipping on my grades at school witch i was already strugiling and is at resk of failling my grade.i dont want to have my mom as an excuse for my homework.i stayed home today to catch up and no one knows that.
im under my head and no one to turn too.
what do i do.
plz help me sorry its so long
katie
Dear Katie,
I'm sorry to hear of all the troubles your family has been having. Yes, managing a household takes a lot of work, and inspite of being the only girl, EVERYONE NEEDS TO PITCH IN. All living there contribute to the mess, and threrefore, should be doing their part to assist with the upkeep. Perhaps you need to speak to them about this; be honest and tell them why you need them to do their fair share.
As for your father, if he's around, tell him you need help and that your shool work is suffering. Ask him to call a family meeting to address the situation of everyone pitching in. If you've got other relatives in the area (grandparents, aunts, uncles) perhaps they too could be of assistance. At any rate, you should not be the only one doing the household chores!
As for your school work, please, please speak with your guidance counselor, or principal, or home room teacher, or favorite teacher. Lay it all out for them. This situation requires that you reach out and ask for assistance. It's not too late, so don't be ashamed or afraid. All families, from time to time, need the support and assistance of others.
As for your mother being ill, in many hospitals there are social workers assigned to the different medical units to assit patients and their family members. That being the case, you can also ask her nurse to speak with the social worker. If it's easier to call from home, ask the hospital switchborad operator for the "social work department," then ask to speak to the person assigned to your mother's floor. You may have to leave a message, so that the social worker can get back to you. She/he may have additional suggestions and resources that would be helpful in your situation.
I wish you well.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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my father is around he lives with me and i dont get the part about the socail worker
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