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I have worked in social services (nonprofits) for over two decades. At this point, there is little I've not heard, and therefore, I am able to give pretty grounded advice.
I like to write, and I'm currently working on my first novel. I created a 5-week workshop series for midlife women; and, I also have a midlife advice column in a small SF Bay Area paper.
Feel free to ask me whatever is on your mind &/or in your heart. I'm here, just ask!
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So.. my friend, whom we'll call stacy, and her boyfriend, whom we'll call sean is what this is about i think. Not so much with sean..but i could be wrong. Stacy for the past 2 months, i just found out has been throwing up her food , and lately she can't hold it down..its a natural thing now, and because she does this, she cuts herself, and cutting herself makes her eat..its a vicious cycle. She wants to tell her mom, but her pregnant sister ran away and her mom is under a LOT of stress, so she doesn't want to put that load on top of it. She knows she has a problem, and i want to help her. But i know i can't do it by myself, she's stubborn. Would it be okay to talk to our schools couselor about this? thanx for any thing you can help w/. Oh, and where sean comes in, i think she's throwing up because of him, she thinks she's too fat? or something maybe? i hope not because he isnt like that. but plz help me. I'm the only one she's told about the cutting
Dear Friend with Problems,
You are in the unique position to do something that could save Stacey's life. What she's doing is a form of slow suicide, and yes, she needs help! As sometimes happens with people who need help, your friend may not be willing to admit that she's in trouble. The question you need to ask yourself is this: if Stacy ends up in the hospital, or dead, as a result of what she's doing, how will you feel knowing that you could have told someone (a school counselor, teacher, minister, other relative, or her mother) but didn't?
Given that she did, after all, tell you about what she's doing, Stacey may secretly hope that you'll reach out on her behalf. Just know that she is not well (emotionally speaking) and even if she gets angry at you for telling someone, you'll know you did the responsible thing.
Also, google "teen hotlines" or "crisis hotlines" and you will probably be able to find something in your area. Most of the crisis hotlines use toll free numbers and operate 24 hours a day; contact with these counselors is always confidential and anonymous.
It's a touch decision, and I know you will do the right thing.
I wish you well.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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thanx so much..i think i know what i'll do now..someone needs to know
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