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Q: im 15/f and i've got a really wierd problem. First of all, don't call me an emo or any of that nonsense or i will give you a 1, i am most definantly not.
so when my dad screams at me (about once or twice a day) he usually yells pretty bad, verbally abusing me, it hurts. so ever since i was younger instead of cry or let out my pain, because if i cried he would get even madder at me, i would pinch myself very hard or scratch myself secretly with my hands behind my back or so. i was about 7 when i started this. now this year it has gotten worse, i am getting screamed at for nothing and it has been worse then ever. i started scratching myself until i bleed. not until the skin is red, until blood is dripping. now i have 3 scars on my wrist and too many to count on my waist. i never thought i was a cutter b/c i didn't go cry and slice myself with a blade, i don't think i could ever do that. but i went bathing suit shopping with my friends and they saw the scars, and they were horrified. they had no idea what it was from, i didnt really know they were so noticable but they def. are. i am really happy all the time at school, a cheerleader vb player, a prep and every1 sees me as happy and hyper. i do cry sometimes, so im not like repressing everything. and im not emo, i don't self loath or anything. so why do i do this? make myself burn, sting, and drip blood? i don't know how to stop, i tried to rubber band and it doesn't work. i cnt seek professional help my dad will never allow it. please somebody help. I RATE 5'S FOR REAL ANSWERS
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well first of all im really sorry your dad treats you this way, you dont deserve it, nobody does! From what you have said, your dad has one mighty temper and verbal abuse can often hurt more than physical. Do you live on your own with your dad or is there someone else who you can turn to? if yes then tell them how your dad makes you feel. Speak to an adult. If you have no other family tell a teacher that you trust and ask for thier help. You need people who can support you and help. Also, maybe you could sit your dad down when he is calm, and rationally and calmly explain how he makes you feel. That you are forced to self harm because he upsets you. If he dosnt understand you need to get proffessional help. Your dad may need help. If he has ever physically abused you then you MUST tell someone for your own safety or things will just esculate. Let your close friends know aswell, people who you feel you can trust. That way, when you feel upset because of your dad's behaviour dont hurt yourself, phone one of your friends and have a cry or a chat with them and let it all out. Talking to other people about your problems is very thereputic and can really help. Also, keeping a diary or a journal is a great way, it worked for me. Write down everything you are feeling and let it all out.
And remember, nobody has a right to treat you that way, family or not. Try and be strong.
Hope i have helped, take care,
kerry x
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there are absolutely no adults i can trust or that are willing to listen for me, and i cannot tell my friends about my problem i am a well known person at my school, captian of the cheerleading squad and such so it will get out quickly. i cannot talk to my dad about it, he would just get angry or walk away. so in ctuallity this advice was not helpful, but there was absolutely no way you could have known those facts from the information provided in the question so you deserve a 5 because it was caring, and thought out advice. thank you
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Hi, my name is kerry and i am a student in college. I would love to pursue a career as an advice columnist as i love to listen to people's problems and advise them on what to do. I am not judgemental and i enjoy helping people, in fact my other possible career choice would be in psychiatry or pediatrics. The main reason i registered on this website is to gain experience of giving good advice and see if this career is for me, as well as helping those who i can :D
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Gender: Female Location: UK Occupation: student Age: 16 Member Since: April 22, 2006 Answers: 20 Last Update: April 30, 2006 Visitors: 2558
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