About EarthMother
About me:
I have worked in social services (nonprofits) for over two decades. At this point, there is little I've not heard, and therefore, I am able to give pretty grounded advice.
I like to write, and I'm currently working on my first novel. I created a 5-week workshop series for midlife women; and, I also have a midlife advice column in a small SF Bay Area paper.
Feel free to ask me whatever is on your mind &/or in your heart. I'm here, just ask!
I wish you well,
Earth Mother
Ask Me For Advice
View Feedback
Make Favorite Columnist
Gender: Female
Location: Berkeley, CA
Occupation: Social Worker, Fiction Writer & Poet, Workshop Leader
Member Since: April 5, 2006
Answers: 49
Last Update: June 10, 2006
Visitors: 8009
Main Categories:
Love Life
Mental health
General Sex Questions
View All
Advicenators.com
|
|
|
i'm female 14 years old...well you will think this is normal and everything but i still feel weird:
yesterday it was about 11:30 at night and i was still awake listening to some radio then i became thirsty and i wanted to go downs stairs to get something to drink and then on my way downstairs i heard me parents having sex.... it was soo weird my mom was like making this really weird sounds and i heard how my dad kissed my mom and i dont know i was just standing there listening i couldnt move... but yeah then when i couldnt hear anything i went back to my room... and then my little sister (she's only 11 years old) also heard it cause her room is right next to my parents bedroom and she came into my room and she was really nervous and scared! and so am i and i dont know i just have a weird feeling about all this...what should i do?? its just freaking me out!!! and my sister also totally dosnt get it and she said she cant trust our parents or something :-/
any advice???
i'll rate
Dear I Feel Weird,
Sure, I can believe that you're feeling out of sorts after hearing your parents having sex. I'd say that is pretty normal. It seems really creepy because you and your sister don't relate to your parents as sexual beings. Your parents, however, do relate to each other (from time to time) in this manner, and yes, sex is part of a healthy marriage. Some day you will better understand the role sex has in a loving relationship. When this time comes, it won't seem so strange.
If their encounter continues to bother your little sister, perhaps you need to say something to one of your parents. I know approaching either parent might be uncomfortable for you, but I'm sure your parents would rather that you do than to say nothing with little sister still "nervous and scared."
Ask your friends if they've ever had this happen, and I'll bet at least one of them has. At least you'll know you're not alone with what you've experienced and how you're feeling about it.
I wish you well.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
[view]
(Rating: 5)
thanks =)
| |
