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Q: 14/f I have been with my boyfriend since January. Whenever we go out, I can never eat in front of him. For instance, when we go to six flags together, I usually don't get anything to eat, just something to drink. Same with movies, mall, what have you.
Well. In about a month, we have a Semi-Formal dance coming up at school. This dance includes a catered dinner before they open the dance floor.
I'm afraid to eat in front of my boyfriend. I'm perfectly fine in front of most friends and whatnot, but I'm not the skinniest girl in the world so I think thats probably why I'm shy about eating.
Its not that I think my boyfriend won't accept me or something, because I know he's not at all like that -- but I still won't eat when I'm with him.
What can I do to resolve this problem?
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I went through this exact same thing when I first started dating. I'd go ahead and order something at the restaraunt my date had taken me to, but I'd make sure it was something that could be eaten without embarassment. Like a salad. Or a baked potato. I was terrified of huge burgers that fell apart as soon as you lifted them off the plate, melted cheese that would stretch, Snicker bars. Sometimes I wouldn't eat at all, I'd just talk the entire time, then say something like, "Oooh, look, you're already finished and I've barely even started. I guess we'd better go though, if we want to make the movie." It didn't take very long for me to realize that I was disappointing them when I wouldn't order what I really wanted. They wanted me to be comfortable with them and have a good time and honestly, they don't care if food ends up all over you. I mean, don't be a pig, but just eat like you normally would. I started getting my dates to take me to my favorite restaraunt at that time ( try that), a local roadhouse. I'd order a rack of ribs and fries and have fun. There was a big difference.
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Thank you! Very good advice.
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Hi, I'm Shade. I'm an artist, living in sin in a small town, hopping from job to job, and recieving no support from my family. I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder when I was 18. I've suffered through many, many, many bouts of depression, panic attacks and just plain fun ole' anxiety. Since I left my Mom's house years ago, I've lived a lot of places and met a lot of strange, horrible, and beautiful individuals. I've learned a lot about people in general and I'd have to say I'm a good judge of character.
As mentioned earlier, I'm "the artist currently known as starving". I do some oil and watercolor, but mostly acrylic painting, also some clay and metal sculpture. I appreciate all kinds of art and love to talk about it. I like to read, mostly twisted, weird fiction or memoirs about drugs and the fellow insane. I love all types of music, mostly rock, and doing anything outdoors, all my animals, horror movies, and mexican food...I drive an old, crappy, loud car that embarasses me and I just left my job at the art gallery, so as of right now, I am unemployed, livin' off my man.
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Tennessee Occupation: Artist Age: 22 Member Since: April 23, 2006 Answers: 36 Last Update: October 19, 2006 Visitors: 4673
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