You can't make someone less shy. And this is coming to you from a shy person. That's like saying you want to change his personality. If he's shy than that is a quality that makes up his personality. It's a negative quality at times, but to get the point across : you can't change that. He has to.

Because you two are in a new relationship it will be awkward. And who knows when it will end. Try taking it day by day instead. It's only been a day. You have to give each other a chance to build up to becaoming comfortable. Just like in all relationships you work your way up to becoming closer to a person. You wouldn't tell a person you meet for 2 weeks your life story, would you? Probably not. Just take things slowly because it seems like he may need to work on getting used to you and his comfort level may be off right now. If he sees that you're patient and respecting him he'll probably be comfortable with you. Because you're giving him time rather than rushing things.

I know you just want to be able to talk with him comfortably but that can be a big step for him without you even knowing it. Make small talk with him and have him get to know you. Talk about going to some of the places you like and some of the places he likes. If you're into a certain sport talk about it because that typically gets the guys interested.

Think of it like meeting a new friend: Get to know him, talk about things, go places. And once you two start hanging out a lot I'm sure he'll feel more comfortable.

The main thing is consistency and time. If you keeps those two things in mind things should start to get better.

Good luck, and congrats!

-Shannon

thank you so much. I know i cant make him less shy. i meant like more comfortable around me.
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