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Q: hi! well one of my best friends is going out with my brothers good friend. they have only been goin out for 2 days..and their relationship just bugs me for some reason--dont worry im not jealous one bit lol. its just that we share a locker and he is always there now...it seems like they are always together now..and talking to each other inbetween classes. it also kinda seems like she is trying to brag about stuff and throw it in my face. because i just talked to her and she was like yeah so me and ryan (her boyfriend) went over to nicks..and nick is this kid that i had a thing for..well for a night but thats a different story. and then shes like well yeah your brother came over there and it was all just weird. and i dont know i dont see a reason to tell me that? sometimes i just dont get her anymore. they just bug me when they are together and everytime with her when shes talking to ryan..she makes me look stupid..like saying weird remarks about me and stuff..i dont know if she doesnt know she is doing it or what but i look at her like what the hell is going on? i told her that i thought it was weird theyre going out but she doesnt seem to care. i think its weird that she now hangs out with my brothers friends and sometimes my brother. im scared im gonna lose her. and i told her that and she was like ohhh dont worry thatll never happen..blah blah! but seriously their realtionship just bugs me soo much and i dont know why! what do you think i should do? i have already tried talkin to her bout it..but nothin really happened and i dont wanna get into a fight about it! i just dont know anymore..things are all screwed up! seems like she likes to rub it in my face that she has a boyfriend and i dont??? well im im 10th grade--16 and shes in 9th grade--15 and ryan the boy she is goin out with is in 11th grade--i think hes like almost 17?! what should i dooo....like i said please dont suggest talking to her because i already did..and im suppose to hangout with her this weekend..but lately she has been buggin me..and i cant cancel them either!?..

thanks! i'll rate 5 for anyone who answers.

Hey!

You're actually the first question I'm about to answer.

Well, it sounds to me that your friend is unaware of how hurt and confused you are about the whole relationship. She doesn't comprehend what you're trying to tell her because she doesn't know what she's doing. Think about it. If she's trying to make you look stupid in front of her boyfriend it's probably a level of comfort to her. By bring you down or making a silly remark about you she's getting the attention and acceptance from Ryan. I know that this is completely unfair to you. You've done nothing wrong at all. So don't even think that you deserve the negative attention from her.

Sometimes when girls have boyfriends they tend to brag. I know a lot of my friends do, maybe sometimes me too. It's just that you're so happy that you want everyone to know. If it's annoying you really need to tell her. Nicely, of course. It's like telling a friend about a party you went to. Ifyou had fun, chances are you want to share it with people. In this case I'd say "I'm glad you had fun but it's a little weird you're telling me this". Or simply just say "Great" without the enthusiasm. Just remember say it as if you're bored with that subject. Don't bitch at her about it because that will just start a fight.

I can't tell you that you won't lose her because I really don't know what's going to happen. However, you need to trust and take her word for it. You're going to need to let her know that you still want to keep a balance between you two. This means that she will have time for you instead of spending all of it with her boyfriend. Continue to hang out with her but give her space too.

She's happy so you should be happy for her. And I know you are, but there's sometimes when you probably do get annoyed. Don't get frustrated with her, just be supportive. Let her share her stories if they don't seem to be considered bragging. Give her some time to think about how she's going to find time for you and her boyfriend. It's good you told her how you're affected by it. Now she just needs to think about that and take it into consideration.

There's not too much you can do because this is really in her love life. Just give her space, stay supportive, and keep yourself happy most of all. I hope everything works out! Please let me know if you have any questions or anything. Hang in there!

-Shannon

Rating: 5

wow seriously thanks so much! you just made everything seem 10 times better!

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