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I have worked in social services (nonprofits) for over two decades. At this point, there is little I've not heard, and therefore, I am able to give pretty grounded advice.
I like to write, and I'm currently working on my first novel. I created a 5-week workshop series for midlife women; and, I also have a midlife advice column in a small SF Bay Area paper.
Feel free to ask me whatever is on your mind &/or in your heart. I'm here, just ask!
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I guess this isnt really a question, more of an opinion and/or your relation or differences to this topic. Its about my parents control over me..they dont care what I do. Ever. 15/F. Chicago. I have no curfew..weekday or weekend, no 'chores', they don't care who i'm hanging around with, my mom knows i smoke marijuana. I can, and do, leave the house for days without them calling my cell phone and asking what i'm doing and where I am. I've left the town and state for days numerous times. I get good grades in my private school though and only got in trouble with the police once. I think i'm a pretty good kid. I am going to ozzfest this year and they dont care. I'm always in bad neighborhoods and whatnot. So, basically, whats your opinions on my parents? I dont think theyre being very resposible.
Dear Parents Don't Care,
I'm so sorry to hear that your parents aren't showing you the love & concern you need. I'm sure it leaves you feeling unloved & maybe a little invisable, which is a hard way to live!
Often times, there's a temptation to do things (cutting, drugs, alcohol, permissive sex) to try and get them to pay attention; I hope you won't hurt yourself (in any way) for this reason!
The other side of this is that you really need to tell them how you're feeling! They maybe be so caught up in their lives that they've completely ignored that fact that you still need them. It might just help them wake up.
I'm convinced that speaking with someone about this would be in your best interest. How about a teacher or school counselor you know? I know there are also anonymous 24 hr "teen hotlines," sometimes called "crisis hotlines," and you could google the topic, or call the local "information & referral" agency in your area. These I&R's keep directories (lists) of various programs, services, groups etc. that people need help finding.
Listen, sometimes we have to make "family" with those who come into our lives. When I was growing up, I felt more understood and cared for by others than by my own parents. With an alcoholic father and my mother going crazy taking care of 8 children, neither of them gave me much individual attention. Just know that it's okay to reach out for support with this, and without a doubt, you're worth caring about!
Please give your parents a chance to make things right with you. It's important to let them know how you are feeling!
I wish you well, dear one, and I hope your parents wake up to the valuable gift they're missing out on...YOU!
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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