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I have worked in social services (nonprofits) for over two decades. At this point, there is little I've not heard, and therefore, I am able to give pretty grounded advice.
I like to write, and I'm currently working on my first novel. I created a 5-week workshop series for midlife women; and, I also have a midlife advice column in a small SF Bay Area paper.
Feel free to ask me whatever is on your mind &/or in your heart. I'm here, just ask!
I wish you well,
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Location: Berkeley, CA
Occupation: Social Worker, Fiction Writer & Poet, Workshop Leader
Member Since: April 5, 2006
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I'm 17 years old and i dropped out of school and i dont have a job and i reallly want one i aplied every where and no one has CALLED ME!! All i do is sit here al day getting yelled at by my mom because i dont have a job!! But im trying!! im so depressed im just here all day and we need money so bad were almost evicted ive gained so much weight since ive been home ive been in the hospital before for trying to kill myself and i have cut marks all over my body im about to jump over the EDGE!! and i have a physicall comming up and if my doctor see's those marks im right back at the psych ward:( how do i cover those marks??
I really need some advice thanx
Dear Soooo Stressed,
Right now, the last thing you need to focus on is finding a job. Due to the fact that you are gaining weight and cutting yourself says that you are in need of help.
Yes, I understand that your mom's financial situation is not good either, but turth be told this is not your responsibility! It sounds like your mother may also needs help with things going on in her life too.
At any rate, when you see your doctor don't hide your cut marks. Instead, tell him/her how stressed you are. Let's face it, if you don't find out why you are hurting yourself, you won't be able to move forward in your life. Holding down a job, going to school, and having a social life are all things that will only add more stress if you don't start being honest with yourself about what is happening to you right now.
The answers are inside of you, but you'll have to be open to getting help to better understand this. You mentioned a "psych ward," and as much as you might hate that environment, ask yourself if you really took to heart what they were teaching you, would your life be better? How will you know unless you try another way?
Help is out there, but nothing will ever be any different unless you are willing to do your part. Can you change the way you look at your life, and take responsibility for your part? Sometimes to do this we all need a little help, and this doesn't mean that you are sick, or a bad person, or crazy. It means you are human.
You've come into this life for a reason. It is no mistake that you are here. Reach out and ask for help. If you make the decision to go for broke and seek help, life will provide you with the necessary people to guide you to a new way of being.
Find your truth, it's deep inside. Your life is NOT a mistake. We are blessed to have you with us. Go forward, and do your part dear one.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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Thanx i'll take your advice into some consideration
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