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me and my boyfriend get along great we hav alot of similar interests but we only really talk about his stuff when were chatting on the computer... i embaress myself around him like randomly start talking to myself...dnt ask me why... i just got nervous. anyways i dont want him to lose interest in me he told me today on msn that he wanted a girl that could "explain" herself, and not be shy around him. im afraid that if stop being shy that i will do something stupid and scare him off. does anyone have any ideas how to keep a converstation going without any awkward silences or weird moments... or what i should talk to him about....

thank-you.. i really apreaciate it
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[Short answer]

Sounds like your boyfriend wants to know the real you or move on to find a girl who has the courage to risk making a fool of herself in front of him.

If you do scare him off it will be because you said too much, too soon, or much more likely, you two aren't as compatible as you think.

If you stay together eventually all that is to be known, will be known about the both of you to each other; so why wait to find out whether or not he will love you for who you are?


[Longer answer/Continue]

Talk. Speak your mind. If there are any awkward silences, make him deal with them, not you. Right now he’s told you not to be shy towards him. While it’s not always true, in a case like this I think, “The best defense is a good offense”.

Be yourself. Be relaxed enough to be able to joke around with him and tell him to “explain” himself to you more and if there are any awkward silences just ask him something like, “don’t be so shy with me, you’re creating awkward silences.

The main thing is to be relaxed and have fun, if it ends up that he is too uptight and gets so flustered when you do something foolish that he ends your relationship with him, so be it. If not today, that will be the case eventually, so why wait to find out later? I mean, if you continue to be shy with him, he’ll be on his way anyways, he’s hinted that to you already with, “he told me today on msn that he wanted a girl that could "explain" herself, and not be shy around him”.
If you feel the need to hide your true self from him, than how can you think it will work out? The longer you wait, the more he’ll either fear you have some crazy dark secrets, or the more he’ll get bored with your shyness, etc.

It’s alright to be shy at the start of a relationship, I can understand you don’t want to come on too strongly, especially in case the feeling isn’t mutual/ just not there yet for your boyfriend, but at this point he wants to know you, trust him to decide whether or not he thinks you’re too foolish for him. Who knows, maybe he’ll find your silly/weird habits fun or cute.

He’s knocking on your door, either let him in or let him go and if you do invite him in, let him leave if he wants, whether he’s allowed to stay or not is up to you.


Hope things work out for you.

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